Leading up to Christmas and into the New Year, I’m sharing one happiness hack a day, so that you can kick start 2019 feeling positive and with the best mindset for creating change.

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Isn’t it mad how sometimes the person we find it hardest to be kind to, is ourselves! 

How hard are you on yourself?

My negative self talk used to be out of control. I was sooooo hard on myself - it’s safe to say, I didn’t like myself very much.

So from experience I can say that, speaking to yourself unkindly, is the fastest way to ruining the relationship you have with yourself and stay stuck in negative behaviour patterns.

Because you feel out of control of your thoughts, changing the way you speak to yourself feels so hard at first. However, the first step to all transformation, including the way you talk to yourself, is awareness.

In my talks, workshops and programmes, I teach the tools I personally used and had success with, to help me become my happiest self.

The first step I took to improving my negative self-talk was to, each time I noticed myself saying something negative, just write it down. There was something about this ritual that represented, 'getting it out of my head'.

Instead of allowing it to run as my subconscious daily script, this also enabled me to have more awareness around it. Sometimes, just seeing it in back and white was enough to let it go and at other times I needed to keep asking myself “Would you say this to your best friend and if not, why the hell are you saying it to yourself?”

For most of us it’s years of programming we’ve come to rely on, so the positive change you're seeking doesn't happen over night. Ultimately you have to think you’re worth putting the effort in, to keep showing up for yourself in a new and more positive way. Because it is effort and it does take time - but you’re definitely worth it.

Don’t wait till you’re dying to realise you’re about to lose the best friend you could of ever had.

And if making 2019 your happiest year yet, is really, really important to you, find out more about my FREE 5-day New Year Kick Starter, by clicking this link http://www.bit.ly/NYKS2019

Lydia Kimmerling

Life Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker, The Happiness Explorer

Hey, I'm Lydia Kimmerling I am MAD, CRAZY, PASSIONATE about helping you to create a life you're super excited to wake up to. Being happy...ish, inspired...ish and fulfilled...ish is never quite enough, is it? When you feel like there is "more" out there for you, it's because there is. A life where you can't remember the last time you worried, stressed or doubted yourself and your friends ask you "What's your secret?" because you GLOW, SPARKLE and SHINE. That can be you and I will show you how. I got my first television job at 17, ran my own restaurant in Panama at 22, taught Hip Hop in Cornwall at 26, was cabin crew for Virgin Atlantic at 28, coached CEO's on confidence at 29, then at 30 took the leap as a certified life & business coach with The International Coaching Federation to launch my very own transformational company called The Happiness Explorer. I am a master of change, so I can tell you that there is NEVER really anything to fear, but has it always been easy? NO! I have blocks, down days and self-doubt too, life doesn't stop throwing you curve balls, it's how you catch the ball and throw it back that changes. Plus, you never know until you try, right? At 32, I now know what the key is to waking up every single day excited about the life you live. It is to know yourself inside and out and to love every part of who you are.The more you know yourself, the more of you there is to love and the more you love yourself, the more you want to give yourself a life you love. The question is…What do you really want?