Asking for help is NOT an admission of failure!

Hi, I'm Pete Mosley. I'm a coach, speaker and author of The Art of Shouting Quietly – a guide to self-promotion for introverts and other quiet souls. Extrovert or introvert, quiet or loud, confidence can be an issue for all of us. This video explores our reluctance to ask for help.

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Asking for help is not an admission of failure - it's a statement of courage, integrity, willingness to change, willingness to learn and move on. So many people fail to ask for help through embarrassment or fear of ridicule. And yet the right help at the right time can be a life changing experience.

The funny thing is this. As soon as you become open to asking for help, and actively start looking and asking around, people will step up to the mark and you will find the help you need.

Successful people ask for help all the time. They realise early on that it's impossible to be good at everything, so get advice from specialists wherever they recognise they have a weak spot. Granted, they can afford to outsource a lot of day to day processes - but that's not what I'm talking about here. The base line is about giving yourself permission to go ahead and ask someone else for bit of a leg up.

Now, here's the thing. Successful people from all walks of life really enjoy helping others. Why? Because they have thrived on the help they have received from others on the way up the ladder. They are now ready, willing and able to reach down and help others up a few rungs. And so it goes on. 

And what about you? How many times have you helped others along the way?

Who could help you most right now? The chances are you already know or are connected to someone who could give you some sage advice or make a valuable connection for you. Sit down, write them a letter or email. Offer something in return, show willing. If you are really hesitant or shy - ask a mutual contact to effect an old fashioned introduction. 

Once you get into the habit of asking for help, you'll start to thrive and your confidence will grow.

Who can you ask for help this week? Write down a few names, pick one, ask away. What's the worst thing that could happen?

Good luck!


For an informal chat about 1-1 support, email me here.

Pete Mosley PCC

Coach/Speaker/Writer, The Art of Work

I work with quiet, thoughtful and purpose-driven individuals to help build confidence in both life and work, for example by supporting them to find a voice, speak up, pitch or talk in public without feeling intimidated by louder voices. As a reflective person myself, I'm drawn towards working with others who find the cut and thrust of everyday life to be a challenge. I also help business owners work out how to promote themselves and build an audience for their work. I'm a graduate of the acclaimed Barefoot Postgraduate Certificate in Business & Personal Coaching, and I now teach for Barefoot. My book - The Art of Shouting Quietly - a guide to self-promotion for introverts and other quiet souls – has sold in 25 countries around the world. I'm very experienced - I have 15 years of track record as a mentor in the Creative Industries prior to training as a coach in 2008. Please don't hesitate to get in touch - I'm always happy to talk with you about coaching/mentoring on the phone - with no obligation.