Lessons in Love
My second attempt in the ‘Share the Love’ experiment with my 17 year old son.
Have you ever tried to talk about feelings to a teenage boy? Don’t get me wrong, as they go he’s lovely, he’s leggy, he’s cheeky and he’s mine. Having lived, just the two of us since he was a toddler I’d like to think we have a pretty good understanding. At home we flow around each other, coming and going into rooms, congregating at meal times generally and on the sofa to view our shared favourite crime dramas because even at 17 and despite the bravado he still gets a bit anxious with anything remotely dark comes on the television. .
I think we have a good relationship with genuine respect and good communications apart from the odd spat which is usually about the amount of food which disappears on the day of purchase or the general disregard to switching electrical things off.
My son is the only person I regularly say ‘I love you’ to. Despite my previous post I do think it’s important for young people to know they are loved unconditionally. Growing up is hard enough.
My heart swells with love and pride when this 6ft 4” man-boy enters the room.Having recently had a knee operation following a rugby injury he has been spending more time at home than of late so we decided to do some late night shopping just before Christmas Eve which resulted in a Nando’s. I thought this would be my perfect opportunity for a face to face attempt at this experiment. As I gazed at him as he studied the menu I realised he would think I was even more weird than he already does. He looked up and said ‘why are you staring at me and why is this menu so complicated?’ I replied ‘because I love you- I think you are gorgeous and great and I am so proud of you. ‘ He sighed and said ‘ I know that Mam and I love you.’ So that was it. I concluded he is the one person in my life who without doubt knows he is loved. Well I haven’t done bad job I thought so I’ll keep on doing what I’m doing with this one.