Chain Reaction

Learning how to let go and introducing habits doesn't happen overnight.

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Jun 07, 2018

It’s been a busy few months and it’s quite easy to get caught up in busyness.  I read recently in an article that ‘busyness’ was an excuse for not doing other things.

It’s time to put it out there that the proactive mind is always busy, it never switches off. The proactive and creative mind is constantly putting thoughts out there, creating things to do, people to see; knows jobs haven’t been done and there is a chain reaction in the frequency - the repeat the repeat the repeat.

Past experiences ‘made me’ a list person, and although I still write a lot of lists, they are not so obsessive, and I no longer carry matters forward week after week.  

Learning to let go, and generating new habits didn’t happen overnight.

It has taken a lot of time and research to create preferred habits, and I often talk about suspending time. Literary magic isn't available to me in reality, it's impossible to put time on hold, so I am glad that I’ve found contentment within my own passionate habitat to be happy in life through a process of Creative Writing.

Nowadays, if the job, visit or task hasn’t been accomplished by three pre-programmed-listed attempts, (unless it is monthly or maybe weekly pencilled in as a routine) I let it go.  The routine, or as some may call it ‘ritual’ will happen on the next recurrence.  

It has been quite a tough learning exercise to feel okay about letting go. 

Once upon a time, I would at some point 'flap' about the process, and wish I had more help. The problem lies within the script, I was only ‘wishing’ for the help, and the help never came. Or did it?

The answer to this is simple isn’t it - learn how to ask for help. 

What if you don’t know what help you truly need? What if we aren’t looking or listening out? With so many questions, and consumed by busyness, even when the answer arrives offering help, it wasn't identified. In truth, sometimes when I was able to tick-off the checklist, alone. I would feel quite proud in myself because, yes, it may have generated a hyper-environment and, yes, I did seem to have a lot to do, but wow, how powerful I would think I felt when my ego did it all – all by myself.  Where on earth did I learn that ridiculous isolating life-script!?

When we take some time out to journal our thoughts, it gives us time to be present, to think and to remind ourselves of moments. Moments that may have affected our lives and made us into creatures of habit. However, I throw another thought out there, what if we are creatures of habit living in the wrong habitat?

  • People can thrive upon connection. There is also a unique individuality to life. No two people are born the same. There are similarities of say gender and hair colour, but not 100% the same. Can you imagine if we were born as clones of one another?

There is a story there. You see! The creative mind never switches off, it is always thinking, planning and can get itself into a busyness-chain-reaction.

I decided to follow my own dreams three years ago, and it hasn’t been easy. In the early years of change, I had to research my passion. I had to decide if I was in it for the long-haul (a little like a marriage).  Sometimes, I was tested and wanted to quit, because surely it would have been easier to have found a new habit, easier still, to resort back to the pre-programmed habit.

The new routine I was embedding or nesting into, it felt unknown, but right. I had to be committed.  I truly believe if we are to live a life of repeat, then let us endure the repetition with the habits that we love.

In recently mentioning online that,  “You know if it is right for you, if it feels right.” 

I stand by that, but, you also have to do your research. Practise what you preach and having recently lived a life choosing to be a ‘female poet in solitude’ for three years, I now have a first-hand perspective and opinion that life can certainly be reflective of our choices.   

In the past, I often wandered through life as if I had a blind-fold on.  Today, I am aware that a blind woman would use their other four senses available to them, to see. 

People are certainly creatures of habit, and no two are the same or we would be called clones.

Habits don't happen overnight, they need to become a recurrent sequence of events. Give yourself the permission to take the time-out, write a few notes, and listen to the senses you have. 

What chain reaction of habits do you have inside and want to uphold?

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J. Spencer

Creative Writing Practice

Proud to be an Ambassador for Psychologies Magazine. I'm practised in self-publishing eBooks and blogging. I have a website that shares my own personal journey, creative writing, and ideas as I seek and find my own niche, maybe it's chatting about Lifestyle Choices. I hope to encourage and empower others to write creatively and find a sense of self through words, a personal niche, or maybe - simply - a peace in mind. Being kind to others and ourselves is my motivation. I am a book lover, 'Don't tell my husband!' Interested in Drama, Fantasy and Satire, sometimes the poet. I enjoy Technology and Digital Communication, whilst setting clear boundaries. I value professionalism, and integrity.

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