I have begun 2018 telling everyone I know that I want to make this year an Adventure. So, you can imagine my surprise when the Wheel of Life Action sheet for 2018 became available to me for printing this year. For those who are subscribers and have been reading for a while, you will understand where this blog is going. But for the new reader, who maybe didn’t stumble across the February 2017 Edition, it is best for me to take a little step back in time.
Back in February 2017 I came upon the Psychologies Magazine whilst doing a supermarket sweep. Now, this may get a little confusing, but I have just realised it wasn’t February at all, it was March 2017. The editions available in the shop were a month behind, but I still bought it, there was something about the cover that intrigued me. It read:
Reinvent your life in 2017.
Once I had put all of the shopping away, I sat down with this backdated copy and began to read. It was the most refreshing experience I had ever had. Refreshing, because I had finally found a magazine that appealed to me. Normally, I look for a good book, and still do. However, after reading this copy I decided to use it as a resource in my field as a Creative Writer.
I am so glad I did.
Within the pages of the February 2017 edition, I found a Wheel of Life which had eight segments, and I was very aware that the Author Susan Jeffers, Feel the fear and do it anyway (2007) had explained all about a nine-segment life grid when I read it in 2013. So, I wasn’t afraid to give it a try and decided a whirl-wind approach, reproducing the formats and choosing, identifying what made me, ME. I identified that Adventure was something I lacked in 2017.
I pulled together a vision board and stripped the February Edition of images that appealed to me, and stuck it onto the wall. I needed to physically see, all in one place, what appealed to me? Not for my neighbour, nor my friend, nor my parents, nor my children, appealed to ME.
It felt quite egotistical at first, because I had spent my whole life up until that day in March 2017, always, I mean it, always putting myself last.
Putting myself first, seemed wrong!
It has been a lengthy process or reflection, vision board updates and positive thinking, However, I have gleaned the experience and knowledge: in taking care of ourselves we are in turn looking after others.
Have you ever been asked to do something that you didn’t want to do, but you did it anyway because you didn’t want to upset the other person?
I would do that all the time in the past. Yes, I was being very helpful, but there was no enjoyment in the action. When I think back, that may have prolificated outwards, and hindered the potential path I could have taken if I had said, “I’m afraid that isn’t something I would be able to fully commit to, but I know someone who can and would love to help.”
Moving tip-toe steps forward:
Nowadays, I say yes to the things in life that generate a feeling inside of ME that feels good, and I say No to the moments where I think my presence may hinder rather than help. Recently, I realised my professional background has burdened me in the present, because I can be super-protective, but, if the reasons are valid ones and I want to participate in the future, I am happy to share my own doubts, or is it risk awareness?
We all learn by communicating strengths and weaknesses.
But, in real social terms, you don’t really have to explain yourself to anyone, if you don't want to, and are happy to see the metaphorical door to somewhere close. My son said recently, “I don’t tell the bullies about me, or they might use it to hurt me.” His words made me realise, he was ten steps ahead of me in self-awareness, understanding how to be himself and moving forward.
So, as I return to the present and begin to share my experiences in the moments of taking a Life Leap and absolutely loving the Psychologies Magazine who has now in January 2018, or dare I say it (I am now a month ahead) the February 2018 edition has launched the opportunity to do it all again, this time with Creativity as a segment.
I've grown to realise self-awareness is a life-long journey.
For me, as a result of the Week 1: What’s your current reality? Worksheet, and in adhering to focusing on each area that falls below the 5 bar, has become the Adventure.
I am on a Quest, as a Creative Writer, on a new journey, I have bought the ticket (subscribed to Psychologies Magazine) I am headed for new realms, unknown to me, but I am prepared to find out what I don’t know. I am not afraid, maybe a little mix of Conflixiety (my word for Confidence and Anxiety merged).
My intention is to share my experience and knowledge as a Creative Writing Coach and with self-belief I will encourage both myself and maybe others, to be self-aware that knowledge is not static, and in being part of an amazing team, it may be possible to keep up with everything that is going on around us, whilst remaining calm.
The more we know, the many choices we gain accessibility to.
Next time: I’ll be sharing my take on the No-Limits Worksheets for January 2018. I may be a month behind, but the beauty of sharing in the written form, once you have copy of it, it is there for when you need it.