Chain Reaction

Learning how to let go and introducing habits doesn't happen overnight.

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It’s been a busy few months and it’s quite easy to get caught up in busyness.  I read recently in an article that ‘busyness’ was an excuse for not doing other things.

It’s time to put it out there that the proactive mind is always busy, it never switches off. The proactive and creative mind is constantly putting thoughts out there, creating things to do, people to see; knows jobs haven’t been done and there is a chain reaction in the frequency - the repeat the repeat the repeat.

Past experiences ‘made me’ a list person, and although I still write a lot of lists, they are not so obsessive, and I no longer carry matters forward week after week.  

Learning to let go and generating new habits didn’t happen overnight.

It's taken a lot of time and research to create preferred habits, and I often talk about suspending time. Literary magic and escapism aren’t available to me in the real world, only via books. It's impossible to place true-time on hold, so I am glad that I’ve found contentment within my own passionate habitat to be happy in life through a process of Creative Writing and Journalling.

Nowadays, if the job, visit or task hasn’t been accomplished by three pre-programmed-listed attempts, (unless it is monthly or maybe weekly pencilled in as a routine) I let it go.  The routine, or as some may call it ‘ritual’ will happen on the next recurrence.  

It has been quite a tough learning exercise to feel okay about letting go. 

Once upon a time, I would at some point 'flap' about the process, and wish I had more help. The problem lies within the script, I was only ‘wishing’ for the help, and the help never came. Or did it?

The answer to this is simple isn’t it - learn how to ask for help. 

What if you don’t know what help you truly need? What if we aren’t looking or listening out? With so many questions, and consumed by busyness, even when the answer arrives offering help, for me, it wasn't identified. In truth, sometimes when I was able to tick-off the checklist, alone. I would feel quite proud in myself because, yes, it may have generated a hyper-environment and, yes, I did seem to have a lot to do, but wow, how powerful I would think I felt when my ego did it all – all by myself.  

Where on earth did I learn that ridiculous isolating life-script!?

When we take some time out to journal our thoughts, it gives us time to be present, to think and to remind ourselves of moments. Moments that may have affected our lives and made us into creatures of habit. However, I throw another thought out there, what if we are creatures of habit living in the wrong habitat?

There is a story there. 

You see! The creative mind never switches off, it is always thinking, planning and can get itself into a busyness-chain-reaction.

I decided to follow my own dreams three years ago, and it hasn’t been easy. In the early years of change, I had to research my passion. I had to decide if I was in it for the long-haul (a little like a marriage).  Sometimes, I was tested and wanted to quit, because surely it would have been easier to have found a new habit, easier still, to resort back to a pre-programmed default habit.

The new routine I was embedding or nesting into, it felt unknown, but right. I had to be committed.  I truly believe if we are to live a life of repeat, then let us endure the repetition with the habits that we love.

What chain reaction of habits do you have inside and want to uphold?


Image courtesy of Pixabay.

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J. Spencer

Creative Writer

Proud to be an Ambassador for Psychologies Magazine. I value kindness, compassion, professionalism and integrity, not always in that order. Practised in Administration, Instruction, Blogging and Self-publishing. A fan of Storytelling from Fantasy, Fiction, and Fairy-tales, to considering the Social Sciences. I recently spent 3 years writing in solitude in an attempt to research and find my own poetic niche. I do believe I succeeded. During that time I read a book which suggested I acknowledge my fears and challenge them anyway. I accepted the challenge, and have chosen to journal and publish my findings online. Writing online is not always easy, and sometimes I need to be reminded to attach a safety net. Wish me luck.

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