Honor Your Feelings

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Feb 20, 2018
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With the emphasis on personal development and the limitless possibilities of our mind, we have been advised that being positive is the key to attract more goodness, happiness in our life. This is the foundation of the Secret. The Law of Attraction is always saying YES, it is up to us to think about what we want to bring into the " physical plane", to ask for it and to embody what we want to be.

But as you know if it would be so easy to manifest our dreams, everyone will be happy and rich. As human beings, we are subject to, sometimes, being overwhelmed by negative and strong emotions as if being in the middle of an emotional storm, lost, annoyed, frustrated and not knowing what to do. In this case, it is extremely difficult to go back to a state of positive and peaceful energy isn't it ? You analyse, articulate, dissecate each detail in your mind going through the conversation in your mind, thinking about what you should have said. Yes. We all experienced this dreadful situation.

With anger, I learnt painfully but efficiently to use the emotions at my advantage, any strong emotion like sadness, fear, anger or doubt. Always with these emotions, there is a learning, either like anger to say NO and set up empowering boundaries or to ACT to change your circumstances. With sadness, disappointment, it's painful but necessary. We need to honor our feelings, emotions whatever they may be. Under any emotion/feeling, there are layers that are just awaiting to be removed in order to highlight the roots of this emotion/feeling. What is the trigger to feel so upset, revolted, embarrassed or ashamed ?

It is at this point a fantastic opportunity to step back, to take your journal and just write what you are feeling and let your inner guide/ inner voice guide you, show you what you couldn't see. Journaling is such a powerful manner to honor your feelings, to Honor yourself and Respect yourself. Give yourself this time to dive into your being, your knowing, your values. It is a self discovery journey and an empowering way to understand and embrace your uniqueness. More you will learn about yourself, more you will build your confidence, your self esteem from a place that no one can touch : your Self Love.

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Gaelle Berruel

Mindset Mentor, Motivational Speaker, Fear Expert and Head of GLCM Wellbeing Europe Communications at HSBC, A Rockstar Mindset

Let’s start with three qualities which define me, shall we? I am an optimist, I’m innovative and I’m energetic. If you’re looking for something unconventional blended with optimism and energy, welcome to the Rockstar Mindset QG. I am a Mindset Mentor, Fear Expert and Motivational Speaker. I’m also a UK Ambassador for Psychologies magazine, a publication which inspires and motivates readers to create a life they love through the online Life Labs platform. After 10 years working in the banking industry, I created my wellness consultancy, A Rockstar Mindset, to help ambitious women entrepreneurs become the rockstar of their life. How? By getting out of overwhelm, overcoming their fears and progressing to the next level in their business. When I became a mum, I strove to be the best mum possible. I did not foresee that my attitude, my pursuit of perfection, would leave me feeling constantly overwhelmed and on the edge of burnout. But it has long been my belief that positivity is a driver for change and leadership, and when I learned about positive psychology and neuroplasticity (the ability of the brain to change and adapt), I was hooked. “Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life most worth living.” –- C. Peterson My approach is that there is more than we can see, that it’s fundamental to maintain a critical stance and to be independent of thought. I’ve always been the rebel, the outsider, the one to challenge the status quo and bring new and different perspectives or ideas. My encounter with positive psychology and the neurosciences confirmed for me that my beliefs (that we should think outside the box, focus on the positive) were accurate. I was on the right track! Convinced that there was another way to be successful at work and at home, I delved into the world of neurosciences, positive psychology and metaphysics and created my own system, Do Less, Get More Done – a framework that helps women to be successful with less overwhelm, whilst feeling more present. Positive psychology focuses on strengths instead of weaknesses, building the good in life rather than repairing the bad and reflecting on values and attitudes such as optimism, gratitude, compassion, self-esteem and resilience. The study of these topics came about from a desire to help people flourish and live their best lives. “It is not primarily our physical selves that limit us but rather our mindset about our physical limits.” ― E. Langer It is my conviction that every woman deserves to have a healthy mindset so that she can create a life on her terms. Why? Because we deserve to say stop to the pressure emanating from culture, social media, society. We deserve to be accepted and empowered. Our mind is our ally and must be strengthened as such. Shifting our mindset is vital as well as unlearning, removing the old beliefs holding us back, raising our consciousness and developing our intuition. The world needs us (as women) to positively make a difference to make the life of women, children, and future generations better. It’s time to build a healthy, conscious society based on mutual respect. And I genuinely believe that women have the skills to merge masculine and feminine energy to create something incredible. As for the rest: I love to travel, read books and dance with abandon. I’m married to a marvellous Frenchman and we have a daughter. I am fluent in English and French and I’m an advocate of beauty and women’s empowerment. My philosophy is Forward Thinking Communication and I’m here to help you become the Rockstar of Your Life.

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Ummi Fulani almost 2 years ago

I am currently writing a systematic review on emotional regulation. A lot of the time, we fail to regulate feelings let alone honor them, sadly we fall into a pattern of expressing or surpressing our feelings through maladaptive behaviour as a means of coping. Thanks for the reminder.

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Gaelle Berruel almost 2 years ago

Yes, this is why it is crucial now to slow down to face our emotions whatever their intensity to dive into them and learn from them. Additionally emotions not released stay in the body and can lead to diseases. Facing our emotions/ feelings can be overwhelming but the reward to learn from it is priceless.