8 Yoda-Like Things to Remember When You're Growing

So you're going for it, making change in your life, maybe inching towards a dream. Sure, there are wo-hoo moments, but it can be hard and lonely and downright terrifying too. Save this for next time you're having a wobbler.

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Feb 09, 2016
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1. You're stuck. Maybe you even feel lost and defeated, wondering what you were thinking going after your dream. This will change. Everything does. That is so useful to remember when you’re on your knees in the mud. Whatever you’re stuck in, it will let up. So go ahead and listen to Sinead O’Connor on repeat. Cry your heart out. Eat the chocolate. Kick box. Stare blankly into the middle distance while drinking your wine. This will change. You will change, with love and patience and consciousness.

2. Be gentle with yourself. Holy moly, we need this when we are creating a new way of being. Think about it: creation is a destructive act. There’s so much unlearning going on, so many outdated habits that are unraveling, that it can feel like everything’s going to hell in a hand basket. Keep breathing. Keep trusting. Bearing witness to the deep, important work of transformation takes time and patience and kindness with yourself. A little kitchen dancing and some long, life-affirming naps probably won’t hurt either.

3. Chances are, everything non-material that you want – all the love, self-belief, and comfort in your own skin – has been there all along. You just have to get out of the way.

4. Wag, just because. If you’ve ever spent time with dogs or small children, you’ll notice how darn happy they are for no apparent reason. Why is that? You might say, ‘Umm, because they have no deadlines, no troll for a boss, no hideous commute.’ Ok, but here’s a bone to chew on: What can’t you see when you’re focused on what sucks?

5. Learned helplessness is a bugger. I can’t. I don’t know how. It’s hard and I’m scared. The bad news is, nobody is coming. Not your friends, or your siblings or your parents. Not unicorns or fairy godmothers. Not Yoda. Loved-ones can comfort you when you’re in the howl, administering soup and hugs and advice. The good news? It’s the same – nobody is coming. The real hard work of change is up to you. This is good because you are the expert on you.

6. Bravery is a moment-to-moment phenomenon, not a permanent, transcendent state. It's nudging forward, one small, unsure step after another, because it’s scarier not to keep going than to plod vulnerably forward.

7. Other people’s crap is, well, other people’s crap. That’s true even if it’s directed at you. Not everyone may be comfortable or supportive about your growth because it makes them feel something squidgy about themselves. Crap is always about the person dishing it out. Always.

8. Ask yourself: What is my wisest, bravest self whispering to me right now, at this particular juncture? Ask: Is this really the time for me to wither into the underbrush? (I’d bet it’s not). You have pulled water out of deep wells before with no idea how you were going to do it. You will do it again. So how about it?


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Dr. Mandy Lehto

Coach, Presence Expert, Courage-Builder, Possibilitarian, www.mandylehto.com

Hey gorgeous! Have we met? I'm Dr. Mandy Lehto, speaker, coach and writer who helps amazing people get out of their own way already. Nearly ten years ago, I waved adios to my senior investment banking job in London to help as many people as possible start living their un-lived lives. Nowadays, I spend a disturbing amount of time thinking about overcoming fear and the obstacles we place in our own way (we are bizarre creatures, aren't we?). If being braver, a bit more bonkers, and living on purpose is your thing too (squeal!), lets hang out here, and come for green tea over at mine on www.mandylehto.com
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Charlene Hutsebaut over 1 year ago

Gosh Mandy...your timing is brilliant! Just what was needed today.
Thank you.

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Pinky Jangra over 1 year ago

I so needed this right now!! I think I need to read it at least once more to make sure it sinks in hehe. Thank you! :)

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Dr. Mandy Lehto over 1 year ago

So glad it helped, ladies! Choose bravery!