- Accelerating Experience
- United Kingdom
About David Head
With twenty years experience in the search industry before becoming a coach, I combine highly personalised coaching and mentoring with broader commercial insight and perspective. I will help you to find your purpose, to thrive in your career and to change direction when this is what is needed. I will commit to helping you to achieve a state of flow by aligning values and purpose with what you do and how you do it. contact me via firstname.lastname@example.org 07920 064056
Having tuned into the Psychologies theme of friendship in recent weeks, I came across a quote from Orson Welles, which is both profound and thought provoking. 'We're born alone, we live alone, and we die alone. Only through our love and friendships can we create the illusion for the moment, that we're not alone' I like the quote, but take issue with the word illusion. I will explain why.
I have had the pleasure of working with many talented, often inspirational people over the years, who personify vitality in their careers. They seem to enjoy hard work, have an uncanny ability to give you their undivided attention no matter how much is going on around them and have a presence and charisma which is often infectious. These are the things which I have learned from them, and which help me to inspire happier lives and careers.
As an ex head-hunter and now coach and mentor, I often come across people who are prone to self limiting assumptions and sadly, these often become self fulfilling. For some people these derive from a pessimistic mind set and for others, they are picked up along the way, through adverse childhood or career experiences for example. Once you have identified the tendency, the harder question is what to do about it?
I listened to an interview with the writer Jon Ronson, who described one of the dangers of social media, and particularly Twitter , as akin to 'sleepwalking into a surveillance society'. He was referring to some of the high profile cases where ill advised tweets have led to trial by the mob. Here are some of my reflections on the issues, pitfalls and benefits of social media, for young and old alike.
Separating from your partner, particularly when your lives have become entwined, can be one of the most painful and liberating experiences you will ever encounter. There are no quick fixes or easy solutions but there is always light at the end of the tunnel. As a coach, divorcee and keen observer of people and relationships, this is what I have learned.
This rhetorical question gets to the heart of a choice which most of us face in life, very often . Do we chose to see the positive good in situations and people, or otherwise? Do we view change as threatening and undesirable or welcome it as an opportunity for improvement and growth? Put simply, do we view the glass as half empty, or half full?
If you read enough self help and positive psychology material, you could be forgiven for thinking that we could all be super optimists if we only put our minds to it. Whilst I share the sentiment, lets not forget that Pessimism is not an affliction and without it the world would be a less ironic, funny, diverse and interesting place.