What to do when you least feel like doing anything


There’s a simple, but troublesome truth about taking care of yourself:  it’s easier when you feel good.  It’s such an irony, the time you need to give yourself support and soothing the least is the time you are most able to do it.

Oftentimes, when we feel under the weather, anxious, or in crisis, we do not take such good care of ourselves.  Usual routines of exercise, cooking and eating well, meditating, journaling, seeing friends…whatever the things are that restore and refresh you, are simply harder to do.

This is where mood-independent behaviour is crucial.  The times when you are vulnerable, in need, and at a low ebb are the times when you need to step up and really be your own best friend and support crew.

Ask yourself, what do I need right now?  What may lift my mood?  What is possible for me to do, right here, right now?  Taking one small step can lead to other steps that build on it, and with consistent application of self-care you can give yourself the best possible chance of symptoms reducing and alleviating.  You may give yourself enough of a lift to then seek help from others to support you in making lasting change.

When you really don’t feel like it, when you fear you can’t, when you just want to curl up and withdraw, remind yourself that you are not your feelings, and you are not your thoughts.  You are SO much more.  And you deserve more too.  If you were your own no 1 cheerleader and fan, what would you do?  Whatever it is, give it a go.

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Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

I am here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to clients based in Durham. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists locally. I have worked in private practice, the NHS, and in charitable organisations, with a wide range of clients and conditions.

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