What's in a name?


Names matter. Our name is generally the most important word in our language to us, it is a label by which we are defined, and it is layered with meanings.

So what happens when a given name does not fit with a person's concept of themselves? This experience can be jarring and difficult, each time the misnomer is used the person likely experiences dissonance and discomfort.  

Fortunately, we live in a world where our name is something we can choose.  It is relatively simple legally to change a name, but there is perhaps some self-reflection to be done first.  

As we metamorphosise from one name to another, what about ourselves are we leaving behind? Is there anything about ourself that is pushed away and rejected?  If so, it may be wise to open our hearts and find peace with the elements of our former self that no longer fit, ending that phase of our self-identity respectfully and well.  

Likewise reflection about what our new name expresses about ourself is useful.  What are we now choosing to convey to others through a name? What is important about self-identity going forwards?

Like any personal change, a name change can be simple, or may have deep and lasting effects. It's not what you do, it's the way that you experience it that matters, so when making a change, give yourself plenty of time to reflect, and check out how congruent your decisions seem deep within yourself.

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Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

I am here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to clients based in Durham. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists locally. I have worked in private practice, the NHS, and in charitable organisations, with a wide range of clients and conditions.

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