Are you looking in the right place?
Sometimes stepping into the murkiness is a positive step...
I heard a story recently that gave me insight into what has sometimes happened when I am working with a client, and we are both committed and engaged, and yet their symptoms are just not changing.
There is a man on a street, late at night, stood underneath a lamp-post studying the ground. He is clearly looking for something. A passer-by notices he has been there some time, and yet he has not found what he seeks.
The passer-by decides to help, and asks the man what he has lost.
"My keys" the man replies
"Ah, did you drop them somewhere here then?" the passer-by asks.
"No", the man replies, "over there, but there is light here."
Sometimes we are tempted to focus on what is easier, or perhaps habitual. We may have a story of our life than includes some accepted wisdoms about what has happened and how it affects us. Part of the therapeutic process is to give up on these theories, and look afresh. Perhaps we may make connections we do not anticipate, and find ways forward that surprise us.
I invite you to step out of the light and into the murkiness, the unlit places are where learning and discovery are more likely to be found. For therapeutic support, get in touch.