6 questions for meaningful reflection

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Aug 13, 2019
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I once had a potential client tell me that she didn't need any help in becoming more self-aware as she over-thought enough.  I found it a really interesting point that has stayed with me for well over a year now.  It is easy to mistake over-thinking, pointless rumination, as self-reflection.  And for a lot of us, over-thinking is a habit that we succumb to when negative things occur.

But just because you often over-think doesn't mean that you can't instil a habit of meaningful reflection.  The difference is in the questions you ask yourself.

I think the 6 best questions to turn rumination into quality self-reflection are:

1.  What led me to that decision/action?  Unearth what was going on, not just in the moment but in your wider life.

2.  Why did I choose that decision?  Were you even aware that you had a choice in the moment?  Why did I turn down other potential avenues?

3.  What were the consequences of my choice?  All of them, not just the negative ones.

4.  If I’m unhappy with those consequences, what changes could I make to my thought process to avoid a similar choice and outcome next time? If I’m happy with them, how can I replicate them in future?

5.  What did I not know that I needed to?

6.  When have I made better/worse choices and what is the difference this time?

And at the end of the reflection, forgive yourself if you are judging your choices. Commit to doing better in future, but forgive and let go. 

And if you are happy with your choices, celebrate them! High fives all round 🙌.

Overthinking solves little. High quality thinking solves much.

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Angharad Boyson

Founder and Head Coach, bright rebel coaching ltd

I am a coach who specialises in helping people live fearlessly with passion, purpose and balance. After 17 years in the Royal Air Force, I was ready for a change. But I wasn't really sure what that change was. Qualifying as a coach has taught me a lot about how my self-worth isn't tied up in my occupational identity, that living passionately and with purpose doesn't have to mean working every single hour and that I can feel fulfilled, happy and whole without working 60+ hours a week. It's not an exaggeration to say that my life is very different these days! I work with clients to: Establish your goals and understand what changes you would like to make. Identify why these changes are important to you. Create an action plan to make positive and unambiguous change at mindset, cognitive and behavioural levels. Predict obstacles and how to overcome them. Increase your self-awareness so that you naturally begin to coach yourself. I’m an Associate Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation, hold a Masters in Occupational Psychology, trained with Barefoot Coaching, enjoy triathlon training, vanilla lattes and movie time with my 6 year old daughter and my husband. I am currently based in Canberra, Australia (so do come and follow bright rebel coaching on IG if you'd like to see some photos of the gorgeous scenery here)! I do face-to-face coaching as well as audio-visual coaching and a limited number of workshops and webinars on holistic topics such as wellbeing, resilience and goal-setting.

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