Time to get a little saucy! This week's topic is "Sexual Role play".
I went a conference on female sexuality, OMX in San Francisco and watched a presentation by a dominatrix. She talked a lot about the exchange of power between two people that happens during the incredibly intimate and vulnerable space of sex.
It got me thinking about the role of submission. So many modern, empowered women are always in charge and in control with career and families that there is hardly a place to put your guard down and just surrender. I think there is a deep desire in the feminine to be submissive - and as modern empowered women we can do that consciously without losing our power. Instead, we can play with our sexual power in conscious role play.
When I think of S & M, I think of a CEO going to pay a dominatrix so that he can finally recuse the role of "the boss" to someone else for that specified period of time. It's not healthy for anyone's psyche to be trapped in one role all the time, we need the elasticity and emotional flexibility to trade roles of domination and submission, trading places of giving and recieving.
I often counsel women to, "put their big girl panties ON!"
By this I mean they need to take control of their lives and be their own hero instead of projecting their wounds onto their partners.
But when is it time to "take your big girl panties OFF" and practice letting go of control to be in a purely feminine receiving state?
To role play in a good way, you need strong boundaries and an appropriate container.
Watch the video for this week's homework suggestion to role play with a partner.
Spoiler Alert: it begins with "oral"...
I hope you enjoy this video and please leave comments under the video to start a conversation.