So let's say there is less than one week until Christmas Day and you haven't bought presents yet.... you are probably struggling with knowing what to get. You see, we tend to procrastinate on things we struggle with. If this is you, let me give you a rough guide on how to decide what to get.
Someone was telling me the other day about how vexed they had felt over being asked why they were ‘still’ single, as if there was something wrong with them, as if it was an undesirable status. I thought about some of my clients and looked at research on reasons why people are single. While I think having time to be single is extremely important, I also recognise that many prefer to be in a relationship and others still crave to be in one. With so many singles out there, what is the problem?
Next week I will be talking about 'confidence in dating' at a seminar in London. It is not uncommon to see seminars and workshops on confidence pop up time and time again. Why is confidence so important? and what if one doesn’t have any? Does that mean you are doomed?
I was speaking to someone the other day about what I did and received a gasp "Dating Caching? I didn't even know that existed!" "Well there's a whole dating industry out there, look up ODA (Online Dating Association) or DIPN.UK (Dating Industry Professionals Network)" I replied. He nearly fell off his chair. Yes, it may seem alien that anyone would seek a dating coach, but when I explained who needs us and how we help people, he let out a sigh of relief "Well maybe you can help me."
Ah! it's holiday time, you and your partner are finally ready to get some quality time together. Rekindle the love as it were. Except sometimes we bring our stresses and relationship strains with us, end up bickering or arguing and generally loose out on that vital “RandR” - especially when kids are involved. So, before you go, I'd like to invite you to pack the 3 following bits of advice in order to have an awesome energy-generating love-rejuvenated holiday.
If ever there is a season for weddings it would seem to be around now, and of course it's a happy occasion to attend... Unless you are single it seems. Many singles find it annoying, if not downright difficult to be at weddings, especially if it's highlighted that they aren't "with someone".
Falling in love is one of the best feelings in the world, it’s like being on cocaine (according to brain imaging studies!) but sadly it doesn’t last forever. Indeed some people cannot sustain relationships because they are addicted to that feeling - they break up with their partners when the feeling ends to find someone new to fall in love with again. The feeling of being in love distorts our thinking, we have found ‘the one’, we feel invincible, on top of the world but only until reality announces its presence. So when we are dating, how do we know if it’s really love? What does true love actually look like?
Probably one of the things that rank highest in ‘most dreaded experiences’ which are difficult, if not impossible, to avoid in a life-time are break ups and broken hearts. I want to talk to you about the best way to deal with the heartache involved and how to get through it without your world crashing (too much).
You want a relationship, but you won’t get it because in reality you are simply not ready. You may be single enjoying your life as it is. You may be thinking it’s about time to settle down. You may feel pressured to by all those couples around you. You might feel exasperated, you really want a relationship but you just can’t seem to find the right person, you meet a constant stream of dead-ends. Where are all the decent people? Regardless of your situation, you may in fact not be ready for the real deal.
So I was walking through Liverpool Street station in London yesterday, and was delighted to see so many images of hearts and messages of love. As a dating coach I was filled with warmth. I am a sucker for positive messages and lovely reminders. And then I remembered - oh, yeah, it’s Valentine’s next month...
A picture speaks a thousand words. Your online profile photo is your #1 selling point, yet frustratingly many are out of date, poor quality or down right bad. Having good images of yourself online is probably the most important asset you have before people read your awesome profiles. Luckily there are solutions to this....
Just because you aren't struck by the lightning rod of love, doens't mean it isn't 'something'...
Looking at the first dating roadblock. A follow on from the article and webinar of the same name (August Issue).