How to make positive thinking work for you

Some people are sceptical about positive thinking. It can come across that if you are really sad, you just have to think positive thoughts and suddenly you’ll become full of happy beans and everything in your life will magically improve!

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Feb 11, 2016

Some people are sceptical about positive thinking. It can come across that if you are really sad, you just have to think positive thoughts and suddenly you’ll become full of happy beans and everything in your life will magically improve!

If that’s people’s understanding then I can see why they would be sceptical and why it wouldn’t work.

Understanding these 3 missing parts of the equation will make positive thinking work for you:

1) A positive thought without feeling has no power

We have tons of thoughts every day, not all of them evoke emotion in us. Many inert thoughts come and go e.g. ‘I’m going to brush my teeth’. Or ‘I’m really happy for you!’ you say, but you don’t really feel anything inside.

Like little fluffy clouds these thoughts pass by. A thought that doesn’t make you feel anything has little power because FEELINGS are what impact your life.

“I’m really happy for you” you say, and a warm fuzzy feeling fills you inside. This thought has affected your inner chemistry, caused a reaction in you and affected your energetic field. These thoughts don’t float by like fluffy clouds, they stop and anchor inside us for a while.

If you understand the Law of Attraction, you’ll know that this emotional energy is your point of attraction and therefore affects your outer world.

2) A positive thought with a negative feeling will only attract more negative

Because feeling is what affects your life, you can think positive all you like but if you still FEEL like crap inside, then crap is what you’ll get.

Now, you can ‘fake it till you make it’. Keep thinking positive until you start to believe it and feel it, I think this can work for some people. Alternatively you might need to consider if you are attempting the impossible because…

3) You can’t quantum leap from negative to positive (sorry!)

Between depression and bliss are a lot of ‘in between’ emotions, like a bridge to be walked before you get to the other side.

If you’re miserable about being stuck in a dead end job. Instead of thinking “I AM going to get my dream job” and trying to believe it, reach for something closer and more believable like “there’s lots of great jobs out there”. This hopeful thought is more likely to anchor within you and create positive feelings.

Once you’re anchored in hope, you might feel able to reach for a little anticipation, “I look forward to getting a great job”. And so on, step by step you raise your emotional energy and point of attraction. Things in your life will start to reflect this new state, and soon “I AM going to get my dream job” becomes more believable, makes you feel more positive and WILL affect your life.

Rather than calling it ‘positive thinking’, call it ‘better thinking’, or ‘positive FEELING’.


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Pinky Jangra

Founder, Pinky and Her Brain - Life Lessons

Pinky Jangra is on a mission to help people to become more self-aware and learn to take care of their emotional, psychological and spiritual wellbeing. Although we don’t get taught these things at school, Pinky believes that they are absolutely paramount to our success, happiness and fulfilment in life. Being self-aware not only allows us to tune into this wonderful universe and experience life to its fullest, it also leaves us well equipped to handle any challenges that inevitably come our way. Pinky teaches through multiple mediums including blogs, videos, live workshops and events and she even draws cartoons - Mr Stick is one her most popular creations! Her experience, knowledge and inspiration come from everyday life, 10 years (and counting) of personal growth and her work and study in behavioural and biological science. She really believes that all the answers about our lives are already inside us! Sometimes, we just need a little help to find them :)

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