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Are you one of the 67% who's had an Adverse Childhood Experience? These shape and restrict our future - but there IS a way to beat the odds!
Who is your Inner child and what mischief might they be creating between you and your partner or spouse?
The relationship we have with our parents and caretakers is the most important emotional and psychological connection we will build - and it determines how we see ourselves and what we believe we deserve in life. You may aim to be a kind and loving parent, but there could be one child you've been neglecting to your detriment...your Inner Child.
We all have a hidden part of our psyche/mind which is called our Inner Child. He or she lives deep inside us and is the echo of who we once were as a child. It carries our beliefs about ourselves and it directs our sub-conscious behaviour – about 90% of the time – at home, on our travels and of course at work.
You know all those books, courses, webinars, seminars, workshops and retreats that offer to help you with your confidence, self-doubt, not feeling good enough, poor body image, lack of self-love and self-compassion, self-sabotaging behaviours, negative mindset, and problems with your behaviour in any of your relationships, and as a parent? Well, they're each looking at only the consequences of the same deeper and unresolved underlying cause.
It's Christmas day very soon and the focus is upon having a happy family time. But what if it can never be like that for you? Don't get me wrong – I don't want to burst anyone's happy bauble, but there is another side that we don't hear so much about which is equally valid for many thousands of people.
For many years I had a niggling feeling that I needed to be somewhere else – I just couldn't work out where that elusive place was. I felt frustrated and a bit dizzy trying to figure it out. I knew that if only I could find out where I 'belonged' I'd feel happier, more complete, at peace and I'd be enjoying a vibrant circle of loving friends, and I'd never feel emotionally isolated again. I've moved around a bit over the years, but never found the place I'd been searching for – and yet I still yearned for it. That Utopian place that would be the 'cherry on top' of the cake of my life.
Do you ever find yourself feeling guilty even though you've not actually done anything wrong? If so, it'll be more to do with your deep-seated subconscious beliefs than actual events.
We all have our own unique relationship with food - and many of us also share some similar difficulties. When we explore and examine our inner child's associations with food, nourishment and nurture we can see the links with our present day relationship with food - and how to heal it.
Bullying happens not only in the playground or park, but in the dormitory, office, boardroom or prison too. Anywhere where one person has the need to dominate and oppress another. Bullying results in feelings of weakness, vulnerability, helplessness and shame in the victim. When we've put the bullying behaviour in its rightful place these heavy feelings melt away and a new perspective and resourcefulness can take their place.
I'm sure we've all made mistakes when it comes to 'sussing out' other people and their motives...and perhaps these mistakes have cost us dearly. We are inherently wired up to make a quick decision about a friend or foe at first sight – because our very survival in primitive times could have depended upon this snap decision – to fight or run away!
The most important thing to remember is that not everyone is built of the same stuff when it comes to being able to create the necessary internal psychological structures – or mental 'grit' - to support themselves in times of great challenge, adversity and distress.