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Bullying happens not only in the playground or park, but in the dormitory, office, boardroom or prison too. Anywhere where one person has the need to dominate and oppress another. Bullying results in feelings of weakness, vulnerability, helplessness and shame in the victim. When we've put the bullying behaviour in its rightful place these heavy feelings melt away and a new perspective and resourcefulness can take their place.
We all struggle at times to make our point, and to get our opinions and preferences across to others. This leaves us feeling frustrated and disappointed, and the muddles we get into can damage our relationships. Here are some simple ways you can help to make more of an impact and greatly reduce the likelihood of someone challenging what you have to say, or of things getting in a muddle.
Do you ever find yourself feeling guilty even though you've not actually done anything wrong? If so, it'll be more to do with your deep-seated subconscious beliefs than actual events.
The most important thing to remember is that not everyone is built of the same stuff when it comes to being able to create the necessary internal psychological structures – or mental 'grit' - to support themselves in times of great challenge, adversity and distress.
It's Christmas day very soon and the focus is upon having a happy family time. But what if it can never be like that for you? Don't get me wrong – I don't want to burst anyone's happy bauble, but there is another side that we don't hear so much about which is equally valid for many thousands of people.
You know all those books, courses, webinars, seminars, workshops and retreats that offer to help you with your confidence, self-doubt, not feeling good enough, poor body image, lack of self-love and self-compassion, self-sabotaging behaviours, negative mindset, and problems with your behaviour in any of your relationships, and as a parent? Well, they're each looking at only the consequences of the same deeper and unresolved underlying cause.
For many years I had a niggling feeling that I needed to be somewhere else – I just couldn't work out where that elusive place was. I felt frustrated and a bit dizzy trying to figure it out. I knew that if only I could find out where I 'belonged' I'd feel happier, more complete, at peace and I'd be enjoying a vibrant circle of loving friends, and I'd never feel emotionally isolated again. I've moved around a bit over the years, but never found the place I'd been searching for – and yet I still yearned for it. That Utopian place that would be the 'cherry on top' of the cake of my life.
We all have a hidden part of our psyche/mind which is called our Inner Child. He or she lives deep inside us and is the echo of who we once were as a child. It carries our beliefs about ourselves and it directs our sub-conscious behaviour – about 90% of the time – at home, on our travels and of course at work.
We all have our own unique relationship with food - and many of us also share some similar difficulties. When we explore and examine our inner child's associations with food, nourishment and nurture we can see the links with our present day relationship with food - and how to heal it.