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The most important thing to remember is that not everyone is built of the same stuff when it comes to being able to create the necessary internal psychological structures – or mental 'grit' - to support themselves in times of great challenge, adversity and distress.
Bullying happens not only in the playground or park, but in the dormitory, office, boardroom or prison too. Anywhere where one person has the need to dominate and oppress another. Bullying results in feelings of weakness, vulnerability, helplessness and shame in the victim. When we've put the bullying behaviour in its rightful place these heavy feelings melt away and a new perspective and resourcefulness can take their place.
I'm sure we've all made mistakes when it comes to 'sussing out' other people and their motives...and perhaps these mistakes have cost us dearly. We are inherently wired up to make a quick decision about a friend or foe at first sight – because our very survival in primitive times could have depended upon this snap decision – to fight or run away!