I need to ask some questions about my Wife's OCD and anxiety, but it is very complex and cannot fit into 200 or even the extra 400 characters. Is there a way around this. Deserately need help.
What I notice immediately is that your wife's problem with OCD and anxiety has become your problem - to the extent that you say you desperately need help.
Naturally you want to help your wife, but in the process of trying to do that you have developed a problem of your own. Your first port of call should be your GP (or Mental Health Team if your wife has already been referred to them). They will be able to inform and reassure you, and if necessary to refer or signpost you to local services.
If you do not find what you need within the NHS, you may want to consider consulting a therapist in private practice. You can search for accredited therapists in your area on the websites of the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), which is now linked to LifeLabs, the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and Counselling Directory.
Your desperation about your wife's problem suggests to me that there may be issues around boundaries and personal responsibility in your relationship, and so I wonder if it might be useful for you also to consult a relationship therapist together.
Best wishes to you both.
This sounds like a tough situation and you are clearly working hard to find an answer that will provide some peace and healing for you both. There have been many positive advances in neuroscience so I'd suggest exploring sensorimotor therapy as a possible next step. I know many people who have finally understood their condition with this method and been given positive options for healing. Good luck!