I've just published a post on Personality Types which readers may find interesting, but I'd like to ask which specific issues readers would like members of the UKCP Therapist's Channel to address?
Hi. There's some help and guidance from our editor here: https://lifelabs.psychologies.co.uk/rooms/130-ukcp-private-training-room/videos/16180-suzy-ukcp-new Thanks
I want to be more adventurous sexually but feel my partner doesn't. He thinks I'm crude. He was in the past with others so why not with me? I know I'm not his usual type could that be the reason why?
It could be that he views your relationship differently to his past experiences. Possibly his previous relationships were about exploration and "sowing oats" and that his relationship with you is more about a stable loving relationsh... Read more »
Hi Hayley - What do YOU think? I'd say actions speak louder than wor... Read more »
Ive been dating a woman for over a year! Havent havent heard"i love you" since,came christmas,presents were bought for friends,yet i got nothing? :-( i did go out of my way to get a few for her!
Hi Henry, Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are feeling very disappointed and hu... Read more »
I live 3 nights a week at my boyfriends place and 4 nights a week with my parents but I just don't feel settled at all. I feel like I am living out of bags and it is really frustrating me.
Your sense of security and safety comes from inside you and is not necessarily as a result of where you are residing. I do hear that you would prefer to be living in one place and feeling more settled - with your belongings all around you - and that is something you are working towar... Read more »
I met a guy on Facebook and we started chatting and talking. He initiated everything,from chatting to video calling,But then he seems disinterested.If I leave him,he comes back. If I pay attention he
I agree with Maxine. This is often, unfortunately, typical behaviour of a sort of person who needs to feel need... Read more »
My partner struggles to find joy in his main hobby (video games) and this results in strange OCD behaviour that makes him depressed. I feel helpless. I wish I knew how to make him end this pattern.
Only he knows what the underlying reasons are for his behaviour - and paradoxically he may not be aware of them if they are sub-conscious and from his childhood experiences which are being re-played in his adult life. Does he believe that he has a probl... Read more »
Help. I am 59. My husband died 14 years ago. I took me over 10 years to get on with my life. Three years ago I met up with the guy I dated in high school and we started dating again and after a yea
Not being able to 'stand being alone' isn't a good basis for being in any relationship. That type of emotional need can cloud our judgement about the relationships we form and tolera... Read more »
How do you forgive someone if you feel that they are not sorry for what they have done? Her comments make me feel she is not at all sorry. "We all make mistakes, we have to learn and grow!"
There is no necessity to forgive anyone - that has to be your personal choice, and done for your own reasons. Would she want your forgivene... Read more »
The introduction to module 1 video in 'Achieve your goals' freezes after 10 seconds. Please can you help with this. Thanks.
Hi Helen. I'm sorry you have had this experien... Read more »
Honesty. Honesty with yourself to start wi... Read more »
Hi Sarah I was listening to Woman's hour the other day and there was a famous author on there and she said they way she wrote was to take herself off to a cafe every morning and with no other distractions ( no wi-fi ) she felt free to write and she did a few hours a day and was much more productive without the distractions of home and within a while she had written a book. Like everything starting is the hardest part but just thought this little second hand advice would be worth sharing with yo... Read more »
Hi Ellen, I love the advice below and hope it helps you. I would add to that the Energy/ Drain continu... Read more »
Hi, in psychologies magazine that I subscribe to is advertising the how to achieve your goals course is for free? On here is saying to pay for it. Please help? Thanks Alison
Hi there Alison, Thanks for your interest in the new online courses! The courses are paid for products, but you can trial them for fr... Read more »
Hi Hannah, We are so sorry you are experiencing a problem with your course - let's get this sorted for you. The Video for Day Two is titled: 'Day 2: How the Grid Works: Demonstration vide... Read more »
I have been in a relationship with this great man for the past 9 months and everything has been great. My ex husband has been an issue because he does not want me to move on.
Jaime, Would you like to have a 1:1 with me to discuss things in context and detail? Suzie
I'm 15 nd my bf is school vice captain.He hangs out with girls and boys nd he never asks me out. He yells and shouts at me when by mistake our batchmate got to knw abt our relationship. I'm mentally
Annie, I think the question you should be asking is whether or not you're happy in this relationship? Your bf should be proud to have you on his a... Read more »
Honestly, this concerns me as your boyfriend seems to have all the power in this relationship. Even the language you are using 'instructs' is the language of control and not intima... Read more »
I'm a teen and have a boyfriend you I ve been dating since more than a month but i have expressed my feelings first so it was his duty to express his feelings now but its more than a month and still
Dear Annie - I am way past my teenage years so my answer comes from experience of teaching people to self-love and to love others. Love has no expectations and no deman... Read more »
i don't know if what i did was the right thing to do ? because it seems to me that something is missing but i can't inderstand what's his problem and he refuse to expalin
I love Byron Katie's take on these kind of situations. She says there are 3 kinds of business: My business, your business and God's business and the art is to know the differen... Read more »
Hi. Thank you for reaching o... Read more »
My boyfriend of 7 months (however close friend of over a year) is amazing and I believe we will be married one day. Before (8 months) we got in a relationship I slept with his close friend who's is
Hi there. Thank you for reaching out and shari... Read more »
my boyfriend and i have been together for 14 years but lately i feel that our relationship has become quite stale and that we don't spend enough time together. when we are together it feels more like
Hey Michelle, it seems by your message that maybe an aspect of you feels like the direction of the relationship is out of your hands, as though you are not in control of how the relationship progresses. I'd suggest that you take sometime to use the things you are unhappy with in the relationships to give you deeper clarity on what you want from a relationsh... Read more »
I have been dating a wonderful man for 6 months now. Before now, the last time that he was in a relationship was 5 years ago so when we first started he wasn't very good at staying in touch with me.
Hi Jamie Of course we automatically jump to conclusions about the quality of feelings the person has for us when they change a regular patter of behavior. However this is common when people start to feel comfortable with each oth... Read more »
My dad and his mother have never got along, linked to a tough relationship between them during my dad's childhood. My dad recently asked me not to speak to my nan anymore. What do I do?
Hi Sarah, It's never nice or fair when those you love ask you to chose between them or someone/thing else you equally care about. I think both Lydia and Keith offer the best if perhaps not the easiest advi... Read more »