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Moved in at 2 months, been dating a year. I am still living out of the guest room with clothes piled on the bed and have been asking for closet space since about 6 months in. I was asked at the start

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MD on Sep 12, 2017 • 3 answers
I work as a therapist, what I would say to you if you were my client is this. What would you say to a friend you told you this, how would you advise her or h... Read more »
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Mari Williams on Sep 13, 2017

Me and my partner had a row yesterday. It was my fault I have not been treating him right lately and letting my anxiety and mood swings reflect on our relationship. We nearly split up over this.

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Bianca Sadler on Jun 12, 2017 • 4 answers
Dear Bianca It sounds as if you are feeling vulnerable and questioning yourself, assuming that your symptoms are the cause of the relationship difficulties you are experiencing. My colleagues have made some wise and helpful observations about the impact both people in a relationship have on ... Read more »
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Fe Robinson on Jun 13, 2017

Me and my partner had a row yesterday. It was my fault I have not been treating him right lately and letting my anxiety and mood swings reflect on our relationship. We nearly split up over this.

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Bianca Sadler on Jun 12, 2017 • 4 answers
Hi Bianca, firstly, well done for acknowledging that you've been taking your feelings out on your partner (I understand this is what has been happening and that you are not simply blaming yourself for this problem). Doing this gives you an opportunity to chan... Read more »
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Joan Dawson on Jun 14, 2017

I've just published a post on Personality Types which readers may find interesting, but I'd like to ask which specific issues readers would like members of the UKCP Therapist's Channel to address?

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Hilary Price on Mar 23, 2017 • 1 answer
Hi. There's some help and guidance from our editor here: https://lifelabs.psychologies.co.uk/rooms/130-ukcp-private-training-room/videos/16180-suzy-ukcp-new Thanks
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Ellen Tout on Apr 20, 2017

I want to be more adventurous sexually but feel my partner doesn't. He thinks I'm crude. He was in the past with others so why not with me? I know I'm not his usual type could that be the reason why?

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Bianca Sadler on Mar 21, 2017 • 1 answer
It could be that he views your relationship differently to his past experiences. Possibly his previous relationships were about exploration and "sowing oats" and that his relationship with you is more about a stable loving relationsh... Read more »
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Shaun Brookhouse on Mar 21, 2017

Does he not care enough for me?

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Hayley on Mar 20, 2017 • 1 answer
Hi Hayley - What do YOU think? I'd say actions speak louder than wor... Read more »
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Shan Rees on Mar 21, 2017

I live 3 nights a week at my boyfriends place and 4 nights a week with my parents but I just don't feel settled at all. I feel like I am living out of bags and it is really frustrating me.

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Bianca Sadler on Dec 08, 2016 • 1 answer
Your sense of security and safety comes from inside you and is not necessarily as a result of where you are residing. I do hear that you would prefer to be living in one place and feeling more settled - with your belongings all around you - and that is something you are working towar... Read more »
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Maxine Harley on Dec 08, 2016

I met a guy on Facebook and we started chatting and talking. He initiated everything,from chatting to video calling,But then he seems disinterested.If I leave him,he comes back. If I pay attention he

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Harshleen Kaur on Dec 06, 2016 • 2 answers
I agree with Maxine. This is often, unfortunately, typical behaviour of a sort of person who needs to feel need... Read more »
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Emily Jacob on Dec 06, 2016

My partner struggles to find joy in his main hobby (video games) and this results in strange OCD behaviour that makes him depressed. I feel helpless. I wish I knew how to make him end this pattern.

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Bee on Sep 25, 2016 • 1 answer
Only he knows what the underlying reasons are for his behaviour - and paradoxically he may not be aware of them if they are sub-conscious and from his childhood experiences which are being re-played in his adult life. Does he believe that he has a probl... Read more »
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Maxine Harley on Sep 25, 2016

Help. I am 59. My husband died 14 years ago. I took me over 10 years to get on with my life. Three years ago I met up with the guy I dated in high school and we started dating again and after a yea

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Wanda Watson Pirani on Sep 22, 2016 • 1 answer
Not being able to 'stand being alone' isn't a good basis for being in any relationship. That type of emotional need can cloud our judgement about the relationships we form and tolera... Read more »
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Maxine Harley on Sep 22, 2016

How do you forgive someone if you feel that they are not sorry for what they have done? Her comments make me feel she is not at all sorry. "We all make mistakes, we have to learn and grow!"

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Judith on Sep 22, 2016 • 1 answer
There is no necessity to forgive anyone - that has to be your personal choice, and done for your own reasons. Would she want your forgivene... Read more »
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Maxine Harley on Sep 22, 2016

I am really struggling in my relationship right now.

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Chloe Pitt on Aug 04, 2016 • 1 answer
Honesty. Honesty with yourself to start wi... Read more »
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Dr Julie Leoni on Aug 05, 2016

I have a secret ambition to write a book.

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Sophie Deacon on Aug 04, 2016 • 7 answers
Hi Sarah I was listening to Woman's hour the other day and there was a famous author on there and she said they way she wrote was to take herself off to a cafe every morning and with no other distractions ( no wi-fi ) she felt free to write and she did a few hours a day and was much more productive without the distractions of home and within a while she had written a book. Like everything starting is the hardest part but just thought this little second hand advice would be worth sharing with yo... Read more »
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Ffi Ffi Trixibelle on Aug 05, 2016

I really need to change career....

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Ellen Rowlands on Aug 04, 2016 • 3 answers
Hi Ellen, I love the advice below and hope it helps you. I would add to that the Energy/ Drain continu... Read more »
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Dr Julie Leoni on Aug 05, 2016

Hi, in psychologies magazine that I subscribe to is advertising the how to achieve your goals course is for free? On here is saying to pay for it. Please help? Thanks Alison

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Alison O'callaghan on Jun 27, 2016 • 1 answer
Hi there Alison, Thanks for your interest in the new online courses! The courses are paid for products, but you can trial them for fr... Read more »
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Practical Wisdom on Jun 27, 2016

Missing Video

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Hannah Robertson on Jun 06, 2016 • 1 answer
Hi Hannah, We are so sorry you are experiencing a problem with your course - let's get this sorted for you. The Video for Day Two is titled: 'Day 2: How the Grid Works: Demonstration vide... Read more »
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Practical Wisdom on Jun 08, 2016

I have been in a relationship with this great man for the past 9 months and everything has been great. My ex husband has been an issue because he does not want me to move on.

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Jaime on May 20, 2016 • 3 answers
Jaime, Would you like to have a 1:1 with me to discuss things in context and detail? Suzie
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Suzie Parkus on May 31, 2016

I'm 15 nd my bf is school vice captain.He hangs out with girls and boys nd he never asks me out. He yells and shouts at me when by mistake our batchmate got to knw abt our relationship. I'm mentally

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Annie T on Apr 29, 2016 • 1 answer
Annie, I think the question you should be asking is whether or not you're happy in this relationship? Your bf should be proud to have you on his a... Read more »
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Rebecca Ashworth on May 13, 2016

I'm a teen and have some boyfriend issues.My bf says that he loves me but his best friends hate

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Annie T on Mar 20, 2016 • 2 answers
Honestly, this concerns me as your boyfriend seems to have all the power in this relationship. Even the language you are using 'instructs' is the language of control and not intima... Read more »
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Dr Julie Leoni on Apr 28, 2016

I'm a teen and have a boyfriend you I ve been dating since more than a month but i have expressed my feelings first so it was his duty to express his feelings now but its more than a month and still

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Annie T on Mar 20, 2016 • 1 answer
Dear Annie - I am way past my teenage years so my answer comes from experience of teaching people to self-love and to love others. Love has no expectations and no deman... Read more »
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Magdalena Bak-Maier on Mar 20, 2016

i don't know if what i did was the right thing to do ? because it seems to me that something is missing but i can't inderstand what's his problem and he refuse to expalin

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Ghi Ben on Mar 09, 2016 • 2 answers
I love Byron Katie's take on these kind of situations. She says there are 3 kinds of business: My business, your business and God's business and the art is to know the differen... Read more »
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Dr Julie Leoni on Apr 28, 2016

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