You deserve to live in joy. Question is, are you ready?
With all that has been happening around the globe, you’re probably thinking, joy?! Too many of us are suffering each day. Even I have had my moments over the last year. So isn’t it a reckless thing to do, to live in joy?
Most of us have come to learn to live in the response mode. As we arise each morning, we look around us to respond to others’ demands, making sure we’re doing what we should be doing, otherwise we may fear being criticised or else feel we are wasting our lives. As our response mode sits in the subconscious, we become programmed to this way of living. But it doesn’t make for a joyful life.
Don Miguel Ruiz writes in The Four Agreements, that what others think of you is actually none of your business! And who’s to say they are right anyway? – “What others say and do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements that they have in their own minds. – Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”
Living in constant response mode – to be all to others – means to live in fear of judgement. This puts the brakes on living from a place of love, joy and spontaneity – to be in the moment. This way of living also resists allowing the abundance of new things and endless possibilities to come into our lives.
What does this mean for day-to-day living? It means letting go of your story and enjoying the present moment. It means letting go of the judgements of others, forgiving them and yourself (don’t worry, you don’t have to condone their behaviour either!) It means allowing yourself time and space to enjoy the things you like to do, with the people you enjoy spending time with. It means not giving yourself a hard time and mentally beating yourself up because you’ve not ticked all of your to do list. Instead be kind to yourself and trust all good things are coming to you.
In Bonnie Ware’s book The Five Regrets of the Dying, (Bronnie was a hospice nurse), some of the top regrets were that those nearing their time wished they’d had the courage to live a life true to themselves, not the life others expected of them. They also wished they had let themselves be happier.
You may have heard the phrase, ‘Like attracts like’ – so why not go about your day living and feeling in a place of joy and abundance?
Be your true self because you are wonderful! There is only one of you. Allow yourself to laugh and enjoy every day – because you deserve it.