Where you look determines what you see

In this post Fe reflects on the importance of looking at what you can't yet see if you want to resolve what's troubling you

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I was reminded of a story recently that not only made me chuckle, but also made me feel a touch uncomfortable in its familiarity.
There is a man on a street, late at night, stood underneath a lamp-post studying the ground. He is clearly looking for something. A passer-by notices he has been there some time, and yet he has not found what he seeks.
The passer-by decides to help, and asks the man what he has lost.
"My keys" the man replies
"Ah, did you drop them somewhere here then?" the passer-by asks.
"No", the man replies, "over there, but there is light here."
Sometimes we are tempted to focus on what is easier, or perhaps habitual. We may have a story of our life that includes some accepted wisdom about what has happened and how the past affects us. It may even be true. And yet, that story and that wisdom may be holding us where we are, and stopping us stepping out and experimenting with new ways of acting, thinking and being.
If you want things to be different, I invite you to step out of the light and into the murkiness, it’s in the unlit places that learning and discovery are more likely to be found. If you need some support to do this, then get in touch and let’s go there together.

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.