Whatever's happening, its happening right now

Fe reflects on the nature of trauma memories, and how they can impact your here and now experience

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Perverse as it may sound, I enjoy working with clients who have experienced trauma. I don’t enjoy that people get traumatized or that they suffer, but I am thankful for the opportunity to accompany them on their healing journey, and to make a difference to their recovery.
When trauma is at play, what is happening is that what went on there and then is still happening, right here, right now, in the bodymind of the client. It is not over, its not past, its live, in the room. It’s as if the trauma is right in front of the client’s face, dominating what they can sense, and all their resources and strengths are away off at arms length, too far away to be seen.
The work of trauma therapy is to support the process of reversing these two positions. We bring resources and strengths to bear right here, right now. As we do so, the client can integrate all these pre-existing resources with the split off, hurt parts of self that are stuck in another time and place. As this happens, the there and then is free to drift off and become some place else, it stops happening here and now. And then, there is space for what is physically and emotionally present and connected to now, and it leaves room for the future too, for anticipation, excitement, and joy.
If you are being triggered here and now into responses that belong to another space and time, one first step is to ground yourself in the place you are in. What three things can you see? And what three things can you hear? And what three things can you physically feel? As you do this, you come to your senses, literally, you check in with them in the context of where you are physically located.
What other ways of grounding do you find most useful?

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.