What does Your Village Look Like?

Within our hearts collectively, we can all hold the whole village

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An African proverb states, "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel; it's warmth". I believe we all reside in this village. We all share the village where there has been pain and torment.  Our society is the village.  Racial discrimination has held its roots firmly in societies for centuries.  It has often raised its ugly head in different eras under different names and the trauma keeps growing. It shows up in the workplace, in the family, in our neighbourhoods. Many people are beginning and wanting to uncover their own meaning of racism. As we step into the last quarter of 2020, I believe we must stand together and make it our responsibility to see a world free from racism, where everyone is free from discrimination and have access to equal opportunities to succeed.

Many people may feel the support of anti-racism is not worth it; this thought alone perpetuates racism as acceptable. When you refuse;  to speak up or act against an evil deed, you potentially are complicit to that deed.   These poor behaviours often show up in the workplace; right now, people are being called to look at the pain around them.

It can be challenging to hold the magnitude of what is taking place in society today; however,  collectively, we each have a role in tackling racism.  Individuals want to deepen their attention in order for them to be able to respond wisely to the suffering of racism.   So, are you ready to bring your presence to the cause by seeking to understand what it means to be an anti-racist supporter?

Can you remember a time when you have felt like the child in the village?  I believe within every person; there is a child within, who at some point in their life may have felt rejected, marginalized, not seen or heard,  let alone not understood.  Can you consider what it has been like for you, not to feel safe and disliked or hated by others?    When you feel like your life doesn't matter to someone else, the feeling of hurt and rage is huge. When people feel rejected and unlovable,  they often blame themselves in self-hate because they genuinely believe that they are unlovable and not okay.  These are the experiences of many black people as well as people from diverse backgrounds. Sadly, people out of awareness are participating in the harming of the village.   So does it feel optional to you to address anti-racism practices? 

I hope that many will lean into their courage and push outside their cautious thinking because no one benefits when allies are conservative.    Within our hearts collectively, we can all hold the whole village. Being an anti-racism supporter is not about strategising and attempting to fix it because this is an ongoing journey. It is about being ready to become more Compassionate, Accountable, more understanding of your Resistance and being Empathic to the cause (C.A.R.E).

So in what ways can you seek and stretch to understand the importance of being an anti-racist supporter. The most practical action of being anti-racist is to educate oneself on the cultural practices and diverse ways of black people and other ethnic minorities. Educating oneself, our families, and children will go a long way in creating an inclusive, diverse society.

Being an anti-Racist is not only about black liberation, but it's also about the humanity and the humanisation of black folks that leads us all to liberty.  It is not enough to simply condemn racism, racist laws, and racist behavior. It is equally important and imperative to take a stand and actively participate in raising our voices, calling out racist ways; only then can we hope to build a better future and leave behind an incredible global society for children that is inclusive of all.

To learn more reach out or click on the link below for an upcoming webinar.


Samantha Carbon
Psychotherapist - MSc Psych, PTSTA (P), CTA (P), UKCP, MBACP
Clinical Supervisor
Mobile: 07938435233

Samantha Carbon UKCP Psychotherapist

Samantha Carbon is a psychotherapist running a private practice. Following a background in the financial industry, Samantha set out to follow her true passion and pursue her training as a psychotherapist. Today, Samantha assists people in the process of finding the peace of mind they deserve. In particular she works with individuals with a history of addictive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, sex & gambling. She works with individuals who experience depression, anxiety, loss, work related stresses and gender dysphoria, as well as couples. She is dedicated to supporting people to identify their self-worth and improve the quality of their lives. She works with corporates in understanding workplace diversity, understanding intolerances and biases.