The Perfect Christmas Card

Next year I am going to make or find a Christmas card which really speaks what is on our minds....

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Next year I need to make or find the perfect Christmas card.

One which doesn’t say

‘Merry Christmas’,

‘Happpy Christmas’,

‘Have Fun’,


‘Have a fabulous New Year’.


Instead a card which says;

‘I’m thinking of you’…


I’m thinking of you because

I know this year,

most years

have hard stuff in them,

that you lost your job and so can’t pay for all the glitter and frippery you think you should,

so you feel bad that your kids are going without,

and having less than you hoped they would.


A card which says;

‘I’m thinking of you and sending love’…


I’m thinking of you and sending love because your mum died this year,

your dad went into a home,

your kids left,

your sister is ill,

you got divorced,

you split up with your bloke

and I know that you feel lonely

when everyone posts their photos of huge grins and cheery waves

whilst you pretend to everyone that you are having a great time.


A card that says;

‘I’m here for you’…


I’m here for you when you are sad,

when you’ve got a cold,

when you are locked down,

locked in,

feeling sick,

when you are scared,

when you feel left out,

when you worry how you will keep the roof over your head,

when you are so full of anxiety that everything is a threat.


A card which says;

‘I will stand by you’…


I will stand by you through





when the world judges you for

your age,

your looks,

you size,

your skin,

your gender,

your bank account,

your house,

who you love,

the clothes you dress in.

I will stand by you because I can see through to your skin and bones and your red and bloody heart of hope.


A card which says;

‘I know this can be a tough time of year’….


I know this can be a tough time of year because the expectation of


happy families,

presents galore,

peace and goodwill to all,

make the poverty,





rows at home,

sulky kids,

seem all the more personal,

as if you are the only person,

in the shiny, happy, world of Instagram and Facebook who feels so







A card which says;

‘You are in my thoughts’….


You are in my thoughts because I too have suffered,





A card which says;

‘I believe in you’….


I believe in you because I have seen your kindness,

your determination,

your commitment,

your humour,

your compassion,

your love.


A card which says;

‘Thank you for all you are too me’…


Thank you for all the times you have

phoned to check in on me,


made me laugh,

picked the kids up from school,

cooked me meals,

shared your stories,

cheered me on,

picked me up when I fell down.


Next Christmas I will make or find,

a real card,

which doesn’t pretend that Christmas squeezes all of life into pretty glitter.

A real card that wishes you the best, knowing the worst might have happened,

A real card which connects and says, ‘me too’, I have felt that too,

We are together in this,



imperfect life

and it is our connection,

your very being alive,

Your being-ness,

that matters more than anything to me.


Julie Leoni

Writer, Listener, Teacher, Dr

I am a stress and well-being coach who supports women to ask for what they want and look after their own needs so that they can hear their heart's call and live a more empowered and meaningful life. I draw on experience and training in bereavement, domestic abuse, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, Transactional Analysis and other therapeutic approaches to get you loving you. I have 2 sons who I love loads (and who sometimes drive me crazy). I'm a Barefoot Trained coach and I got a distinction for my post-grad cert in 2011. I have a PhD which led me to look at Emotional Intelligence in schools and I have a number of academic and professional qualifications in various types of therapy. I have practiced meditation since I went to India over 25 years ago and I'm currently training to be a yoga teacher. I have written a couple of books, I teach psychology and work with a large variety of coaching clients.