Do you know those days when you feel very scared, vulnerable and all you can seem to do is worry about potential scenarios that most of the time never happen?
Why do we do this? (Yes, we all do!)
It’s because consciously or unconsciously , we think that we won’t be able to deal with whatever we are scared of. It’s because we don’t think we have internal resources to overcome a potential situation.
For example, if I’m terrified of losing my job there are two types of fear and ways to deal with the situation:
Protective fear – I acknowledge that the situation is complicated, so just in case, I’m going to update my CV, I’m going to build my network, I’m going to save money but I CARRY ON WITH MY LIFE.
When managed well, fear can be very useful, it’s a warning that there is a threat so we can think of a solution.
But the key is to believe that even if I lost my job I HAVE ALL THE RESOURCES I NEED to find another job. It might take a bit of time, it might be difficult to accept at the beginning but I rely on my potential and my experience and I don’t need to worry about it all day because I know eventually I would find a another job (maybe a better one!).
Paralysing fear– I’m so scared of losing my job that I don’t sleep, I can’t eat, I can’t focus at work, I keep thinking that I will never find another job.
Not only it’s not helping me deal with the potential problem, it’s putting me in a such a stressful situations that my mindset and my health are being affected.
A way to face that fear is to remember all the resources we have. That’s why this is one of my favourite exercises to get a confidence boost, what I call THE POWER LIST.
Follow the instructions and enjoy the results:
1.Grab pen and paper and a timer (if you’re using your phone put it on airplane mode so you won’t be disturbed).
2.Set the timer for at least 15 minutes.
3.Write about all your skills, positive traits, difficult situations you’ve overcome, challenges you’ve faced, lessons you’ve learnt. Give as much details as possible and write everything that comes to your mind.
Don’t stop until the timer goes off, if you think you’re done, keep thinking and keep writing!
Warning: If you hear something like “I speak 4 languages but you know, I’m not even fluent so it doesn’t count”… STOP. THAT’S THE INNER CRITIC IN ACTION!
So take a deep breath, take control over it and visualise LEAVING THE ROOM. If you need help with your inner critic, this article is for you!
4.Keep this list handy and read it every day to remind yourself how amazing you are.
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