Self-care is not a quick hit

In this blog I reflect on why self-care is about more than just making yourself smile right now.

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“A true act of self-care nurtures you in the moment but also nourishes the person that you are becoming. It helps you cope now but also protects the health of your future self.” Suzy Reading

I came across this powerful quote in a magazine this month, it really got me pondering the meaning of self-care. It’s easy to see it as having treats, the hedonistic, feel good now way of looking after yourself. The problem with those kinds of things, be they food, alcohol, sex, box sets etc, is that while they soothe and gratify right now, they may leave a feeling behind them of regret, or of not being at your best or most fulfilled.

Self-care is not the same as self-pleasing. When we care, we do what is nourishing and protective, what supports our well-being in the fullest sense, so they glow of it lasts and grows, it doesn’t fade away. It gives eudaimonic happiness, the type that is about growth and fulfillment.

Hedonism isn’t bad, so long as we see and know it for what it is, and we make deliberate choices as to how we indulge. A little bit of what you like does you good after all. In my experience though, feeling good in the medium term calls for a bit more than that.

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.


Go to the profile of Artemis Antoniou
5 months ago

Another wonderful article Fe, thank you! I am learning how to be there for myself through self care never having prioritized myself all my life. Finding it is something I need to remind myself to always do. Understanding how it supports one's growth & fulfillment. Appreciate your wonderful words of guidance. Thank you.