Lockdown rebirth

Times of great uncertainty can sometimes lead to tipping points which lead to new ways of living.

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I have been sniffing and feeling and pondering and feeling like the earth is moving under my feet and I have been trying to capture sensations in words.

Here’s where I started…feeling like these were the things that mattered to me.

I even did a podcast about it.

Then I tried to think about these things and how they connected…I couldn’t make it work on paper and no one in my house was prepared to make a multi-dimensional model for me.

So I left it.

And read some more and watched the bracken unfurl.

And then yesterday I had a bit of a realisation.  That I have had these shifts into a new way of living before:

When I had kids  – which led to a family centered work life
When I had the breakdown – which led to the coaching, writing and all my well-being stuff
And each of these were accompanied by time out of work  which led to the shift integrating more fully.

And this feels like another one of those times of stepping out of the ‘normal’.   I wrote in my journal;

‘Like each is a new phase…with a gestation period so before stage one I was a child/student cared for by mum and grants, that was a long stage including travelling and relationships and marriage.  Then stage 2 was integrating kids and taking my foot off the hierarchical, material, external achievement pedal.  Then stage 3 was when I had a breakdown and 7 weeks of work which led to me having coaching and also the coaching training, which led to me I starting writing, met lots of people who I’m still close to and was the beginning of the end of my marriage.  And then now, COVID-19 the earth is calling me to live more simply and sustainably and more in tune with her.’

Then I woke up super early today and realised that each of these stages has had a gestation period followed by a rebirth of a different way of living.

Each time there has been a new rebirth I have had no idea of how to do it.  There were losses and hardships, confusion, chaos. I had no idea how to be a parent, no idea how to recover from a breakdown, but each time I knew something radical had to change in how I was living to accommodate something or someone new.

I felt my way. Sniffed. I worked it out slowly.  People showed up to guide and support me. Opportunities, books, courses, conversations appeared to help me. I tried things and dropped them if they didn’t feel right, and then then tried something else. Some things and people disappeared and some stayed. I felt my way and help was there when I needed it and I found my way forward and integrated the changes to a richer, deeper, fuller life.

So now, this phase feels like a rebirth into an eco-centric way of life.  I have no real idea what that even means. 

I have no idea what stage 4 will mean, how to do it, how to live it. I have no plans, no certainty. Even the above model might change again or totally.

But just like pregnancy when I knew something new was coming, or as I lay sobbing on the kitchen floor when I knew something old was dying, I can feel something has shifted that can’t shift back. You can’r un-see something that is seen or unfeel something that is strongly felt.

I await to see where the sniffing leads.  Will you join me?

xx

To see the model I created from these insight and for the books and podcasts which got me there click here.

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Julie Leoni

Writer, Listener, Teacher, Dr

I am a stress and well-being coach who supports women to ask for what they want and look after their own needs so that they can hear their heart's call and live a more empowered and meaningful life. I draw on experience and training in bereavement, domestic abuse, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, Transactional Analysis and other therapeutic approaches to get you loving you. I have 2 sons who I love loads (and who sometimes drive me crazy). I'm a Barefoot Trained coach and I got a distinction for my post-grad cert in 2011. I have a PhD which led me to look at Emotional Intelligence in schools and I have a number of academic and professional qualifications in various types of therapy. I have practiced meditation since I went to India over 25 years ago and I'm currently training to be a yoga teacher. I have written a couple of books, I teach psychology and work with a large variety of coaching clients.

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Janet Hill 24 days ago

Meant a lot to me x