It's not the story that matters, its the effects

In this blog I reflect on why its the here and now effects and relieving them that need focus in psychotherapy.

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As I’ve been digging in my new garden this last week, I have asked why? why? why? How is it possible there are quite so many rocks? How could the ground get in quite this state? Alas, my desire to squirrel out the story is to no avail, the mists of time obscure why or how my garden came to be as it is, what I need to do is deal with it!
“We don't need to know the story, we need to deal with the effects” Dr Joan Borysenko
I’m loving the parallels between my gardening adventures and my therapeutic work. In both, the story is really not the main event. The work at hand in therapy is to deal with the effects, for clients here and now, of whatever it is that has happened to them that contributed to them experiencing what they now do.
Talking through the history of past events can be hugely useful for clients, it may be important to be witnessed and heard, and to be believed.  However, it may also be triggering. If done inappropriately, it may even re-traumatise. The work of therapy is to be clear about symptoms and goals, and to visit only what needs to be brought to mind, only to the degree it needs experiencing, to allow integration and healing.
When we do this, we respect our clients, and provide possibilities and ways forward for them to choose if they wish. Trauma treatment can allow the rocks of the past to relinquish their supporting role, and make way for new growth and transformation.

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.