If You Can't See it, it Isn't There

Or is it?

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When my daughter was little, if she had done something she knew she wasn’t supposed to do, she would ‘hide’ by burying her face into the settee. In her mind, if she couldn’t see us, then we couldn’t see her.

There is the classic question: “If a tree falls in a forest and nobody is there to hear it, does it make a sound?”

Do the situations we want in life but don’t currently have already exist somewhere and we just have to find a way through to them or to bring them to us?

When my children were smaller they would play make believe as all children do. To them, the teddies really were the schoolchildren and my kids really were the teachers. The soft toys could be made real by unpicking the stitching on their backs just enough to wiggle a small hand in and turn them into puppets. Where there’s a will there’s a way!

In some situations, an animal will remain in a cage even when the door is open. Some people stay in relationships, locations or jobs because that is what they know and what is ‘out there’ is scary. Sometimes our subconscious confuses negativity with safety.

My point is that we see what we are focusing on. Or, much of the time we see what our subconscious is focusing on in order to protect us from the thing that it thinks is unsafe for us but is actually just what we need. When I consider this I can’t help but ask another question:

“What other realities are there that I could choose to focus on instead?”

There is a saying: “Where attention goes, energy flows”

This is an invitation to consider where you are placing your energy; are you in a cage of your own making where the door is open but you either hadn’t noticed or are unwilling to walk through it?

What do you need to unpick the back of in order to bring it to life or are you content to bury your face in the sofa? Of course those are not the only options!

One activity I have been doing lately is - as ever - to think and paint. I apply paint directly to the paper and splodge it around while I am thinking about what I want to focus my attention on. This has brought to light all kinds of areas where I’m unwittingly dwelling in the past, using that as the basis for future expectation and getting too comfy in a cushionless cage. I know my mind likes to play these games with me, which is why I like to paint over these ideas and draw my own make believe, create my own reality.

If you would like to find out how I can help you do the same, take a look at my 1:1 Attentive Art coaching options. Or book in to have a chat with me (no obligations).

If you want to try it for yourself, then you’ll need paper, paint, and your imagination.

Let me know how you get on, as always I’d love to know.

You can get in touch at my website, email, or tag me on instagram

Have a great week,

Sophie x

PS If you liked the Creative Challenges I wrote during last year's lockdown, I have created an eBook with them all in including the story of how lockdown was for me. £1.00 from each copy sold goes to COVID charities. You can get your copy HERE. Thank you. 

Sophie Walker

Mindful Creativity Practitioner, Artist and Writer., Attentive Art

I'm an Artist who studied psychology and mindfulness to help myself overcome some of life's challenges. Now I help others to do the same using creativity and psychology. I believe creativity holds the key to the enjoyment of life and I want to help everyone to feel good about yourself and your life.