Having the strength to feel your emotions

Today I reflect on how vulnerability is not the opposite of strength

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One of the central themes of therapeutic work is how client’s experience their feelings. For some, there is overwhelm. For others, a blankness or avoidance. For some, a rollercoaster of highs and lows, and a desire to find some level ground.
 
I notice a common thread through much of what is explored. Feeling = weakness. Socially this is a well rehearsed concept, with connections to cultural attitudes towards gender and sexuality and the outdated stereotypes therein.
 
It’s neither helpful nor true to perceive that experiencing our natural, human emotions is somehow a source of weakness or defectiveness. Emotions are powerful messages from our system. It can take quite something to stand firm and allow them to be, just as they are, fully experiencing them.
 
Vulnerability calls for great strength, and also for wisdom. We are not whole until we can be with our whole self; thoughts, body sensations, feelings and all else we sense. Knowing that whatever is present will not last, that energy is continually moving through us, is critical. Yes, wave after wave may come, but it need not knock us off our feet. Perhaps it might get us a wee bit wet, drenched even, but we will dry out, and may even feel energised and more alive for the experience.
 
If you are finding it hard to consistently make space for and connect with feeling without overwhelm or withdrawal, psychotherapy may be for you.
 

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.