Do you really know what you're experiencing?

In this blog Fe reflects on the difference between direct awareness of our experience, and our more habitual auto-pilot

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I’ve been noticing in recent weeks how often I respond to things habitually. I’ve been taking moments through the day to check out my assumptions, and to question what I am actually experiencing. I’ve realised that my assumptions and my experience sometimes don’t match. This is a common experience, because we tend to see/hear/feel what we expect to, and to look for evidence of sameness rather than noticing the novel.
Sometimes we are not that accurate when describing what it is we that happens to us. We may use words to describe how we feel that give a judgement, rather than reporting actual sensory specific information. We might say ‘I am bored’ yet when we investigate how we know this, we find actually we have low energy. Or, we eat a meal and yet label the feeling we have as hungry, despite being able to feel the sensation of a full tummy. On closer inspection we might notice a sense of emotional emptiness, or of feeling unfulfilled.
These mis-attribution errors can lead us to carry on the same behaviours and habits without question, and to continue to get results and experiences that we don’t want. Bringing conscious awareness to bodily experience and to what we can sense with our five senses, can be very helpful to give the information to set the record straight.
I’ve enjoyed my voyage of discovery this week, my curiosity is heightened, and I feel a little more awake. Where in life are you on auto-pilot and what do you want to bring awareness to?

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.