Being busy

How busy are you?

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Being busy,

Means you don’t have time to think,

But you do feel important,

and needed,

and sometimes stressed,

and virtous,

which sometimes tips into self-righeous.

Being busy means you achieve a lot,

which makes your ego feel good,

which means you don’t have to think about if you are happy, or living in line with your values.

Being busy

is an addiction,

to avoid the things which hurt us,

which scare us,

which we wish we hadn’t said or done or been.

Being busy gets us approval,



company cars,


if we are lucky.

Or heart attacks and breakdowns if we are not.

Being busy is the opium of the masses,

it keeps us consuming, complying,

keeps us swallowing down the vague whisper that there must be more to life than this.

Being busy means we see a lot of our colleagues,

other commuters,

our screens,

but less of our children,

our friends,

our elders.

Being busy means we can think fast, move fast,

but leave our soul out in the cold.

I am often too busy.

You too?

Lockdown stopped the busy- ness and the trees slowed me down to their breathe.

But then term started and we all sped up,

busy, busy, rush, rush, rush.

Back from our first day at school, tea, car, football, car, rush, rush,

garden, bonfire, slowing down.

A call from the house; ‘Mum, there’s a kitten in the house’.

This, a house on 2 busy roads, with a river at the bottom, and 2 dogs in our house and the next 3 houses up the road.

A tabby.

6 weeks old, the vet later said.

Tame, scared, hiding in the aloe vera.

We couldn’t keep it, not with the dogs and an allergy.

And we are too busy.

But the cat thought differently.

No one claimed it.

I fell in love.

The kids fell in love.

The dogs didn’t eat it.

It’s been here since the start of term.

It is a magical cat.

It appeared from nowhere.

At a time when we were speeding up.

It’s gift is to slow me down.

Life moves in mysterious ways.

I sit with it.

We breathe.

It reminds me of what is important.

It enchants me into sharing it’s time.

I slow down.

I don’t read,

or scroll,

or talk,

I just hold it.

That is enough.

Julie Leoni

Writer, Listener, Teacher, Dr

I am a stress and well-being coach who supports women to ask for what they want and look after their own needs so that they can hear their heart's call and live a more empowered and meaningful life. I draw on experience and training in bereavement, domestic abuse, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, Transactional Analysis and other therapeutic approaches to get you loving you. I have 2 sons who I love loads (and who sometimes drive me crazy). I'm a Barefoot Trained coach and I got a distinction for my post-grad cert in 2011. I have a PhD which led me to look at Emotional Intelligence in schools and I have a number of academic and professional qualifications in various types of therapy. I have practiced meditation since I went to India over 25 years ago and I'm currently training to be a yoga teacher. I have written a couple of books, I teach psychology and work with a large variety of coaching clients.