Balance yourself, not your activity

In this blog I look at why work-life balance is not really what balance is about.

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I hate the idea of work-life balance. Why is work treated as an opposite that is somehow separate from life? Most people spend so much time working that it is a key component of their living.
I prefer to think about balancing a person than balancing their activities. We can find great joy and pleasure in work and in other areas of life. We can equally find both work and leisure utterly exhausting and draining.
Keeping a close eye on your personal energy levels, and having insight about what builds them, and depletes them, is essential to balanced living. It’s important to know when you are likely to need an energy top up, and to understand the options that for you provide it. What works can ebb and flow through time, so a static, unchanging framework of self-care is unlikely to do it. I prefer to have a selection of options I draw from, some are long term regulars, others come and go depending on what I feel drawn to.
We’re well into the summer now, traditionally a time of more leisure given the warmer weather. What would you like to try this summer to expand your range of pick me ups? What haven’t you done for an age that used to leave you feeling connected? What is it you most need this week?

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.


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6 months ago

Fe firstly I wish to say, I am a great fan of your blogs and really love your thinking. Your perception on how to see things really resonates with me and is teaching me how to work with mine. Thank you. I totally agree about balancing oneself being the key factor in being balanced with everything else in our life. When we see just how many books there are on self care, burn out and stress, one realizes just how much of their energy they have used on everything else other than it being on them self.  Committing to balancing our self care with everything else should be part of our everyday life. Not waiting for the right moment or when it's too late. Many years ago I had a burn out and today I know & understand that if I had started with me in mind, the rest would have become balanced with me. But growing up when one was taught to do more, to do everything and self care not being a part they eventually learn the hard way. Then one has to begin to unlearn what did not serve them. Thank you.