Are you feeling out of control?

In this blog Fe looks at a way to help yourself gain perspective when everything feels beyond your control.

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Sometimes we feel out of control, particularly this may be the case for you as our lockdown continues. What is happening around you can be so overwhelming that you are swept along, and it’s as if all you can do is aim to keep your head above water, fighting the current as best as you are able.

Even when you feel out of control, it is likely that there are a lot of small things that you are still in charge of. It might be what you wear, what and when you eat, which route you take to get to a shop, which social media feeds you make time for, who you connect with as you go about your day, what time to go to any day there may be many, many small decisions.

If life is a bit much at the moment it can be grounding to take some time to just notice all the decisions you do make. Write them down for a 24-hour period, and see how you feel about choice and control when you review it. You can ask yourself, are there ways I can extend this control a little? What would need to change for me to feel more at choice about things that matter to me?

To explore choice and freedom in your life, and lessen those feelings of being trapped or obliged, please get in touch.

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.


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11 months ago

Thank you for your article. I have just reached England and I am really anxious about dramatic  change in my life. I am from Egypt. Every thing is new , the language , the customs and traditions, the system of work , the communication methods..etc. I am very concerned of what my boss and colleagues say about me. I fear failure. Dealing with women here is also a destressing point. I want to be polite and friendly but conservative at the same time! what is your advice regarding all what I said?