Appreciate what you are, not what you are not

In this blog Fe explores the importance of taking a balanced view of what you are, as well as what you are not, and how this can help mental health.

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I’m not a professional musician. I’m not a scientist. I’m not a dancer. Or a photographer. Or a botanist. Or a chef. Or many, many other things that I might be. Thank heavens...if I were all of these I’d be a mite busy!

There are many choice points in life, each that take us in one direction, and simultaneously close off other routes and directions that in that moment we might have taken.

Sometimes we look back with regret, and wish we had gone a different way. And yet, if we had, we would not be where we now are. All of our life experiences together culminate in now. All those choices, including the ones we kick ourselves about, led to what now is.

Nothing is ever all good, or all bad. Your current circumstances probably have things in them you would wish to change. They will also likely have many things you would not change, things that you cherish and appreciate.

This is the nature of living. Not black, or white, instead many varied colours, including shades of grey. So how then do we relate to those regrets and wistful longings?

One way is to focus on what you are, rather than what you are not. To celebrate the talents, characteristics and ways of being that serve you and bring joy to you and yours, rather than focusing in on what seems to be lacking or what is not yet present.

And so, I love to sing. I love to dance, and take pictures, and potter in my garden amidst plants I can’t identify, and to cook for my children. I love reading and researching. And I love being a psychotherapist. Just changing my focus has uplifted me and left me smiling.

What do you most appreciate about yourself?

Fe Robinson, Psychotherapist

Hi. I'm Fe, and I'm here to help you thrive, whatever life brings. I believe every client is unique, I work with you to help you explore, discover and grow in whatever ways are right for you. I work with a wide range of clients, both long and short term. I offer Psychotherapy, EMDR therapy and Couples Counselling to UK clients online and in Gainford, Co.Durham in North-East England. I am UKCP Accredited and an EMDR Europe Practitioner, and offer Clinical Supervision to counsellors and psychotherapists online and in person. Following a career in Organisation Development I became a therapist because it's my heart work. Before having my family and starting my private practice I worked in the NHS and mental health charities.


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over 1 year ago

Love this, feel uplifted reading it!