Stop Chasing Your Passion. Embrace It.
Living a fulfilling life isn't about chasing what you love but about finding love in what you do.
I always thought that in order to be happy I had to find my passion and follow it. Little did I know that actually going after what I loved would kill my love for it. That's when I realised the message about 'following your passion' isn't as straightforward as people think.
When I was 18 I decided to pursue my love for horses by going to a horse university that combined equestrian studies with business studies. I figured those two together would give me a good foundation for some kind of career in the horse world. I lasted one semester. I didn't enjoy studying horses and being assessed on how I studied them. I was interested in the sport, in improving my riding and in strengthening the relationship with my horse, but I wasn't interested in all the other stuff that came with it at university. I didn't want horses to become my 24/7. I didn't want them to be my whole life, even though having them in my life made my life whole. That's when I made the decision to leave after one semester to pursue management studies in a different university and keep riding on the side. And that's what I've done ever since.
This experience made me realise the message about 'following your passion' isn't as good as people think. It's not always the best path to try to monetise what you love, or building your whole life around one particular thing. In fact, the latest research in positive psychology has shown how this can lead to obsessive passion which is associated with unhappiness, stress and lack of wellbeing. When I discovered this, I realised I had to explore passion in more depth to figure out what it actually is and how can you use it in a positive way.
Through my research I discovered an answer that was so simple I was in awe of it. It turns out that you don't need to tie passion to one activity or one thing. Instead, you can choose to bring passion out of you whenever you want. Passion is a form of positive energy that sits inside of you which means that you have full control of it. You can choose to do more things with passion. You can choose to be passionate. You can choose to live a life full of passion.
Stop thinking the grass is greener elsewhere, and start looking at that amazing green grass that you're standing on already. Learn to tap into your inner passion and you'll learn to make the most out of the grass you're already on.
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