Choose happiness

When life gives you lemons, add gin and tonic and choose happiness

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When bad things happen, it is easy to believe that life isn't fair and feel totally overwhelmed.

It's so easy to sink into self pity, to lay in bed with the curtains closed, Alanis Morrissette on full blast, a bottle of wine and a box of tissues... Crying, weeping, wailing, a good chunk of drama, hand to forehead, perhaps some swooning.

But you know what? That's not going to help ANYTHING! It won't change the circumstances that are making you feel shitty and though it momentarily may feel like the only way you can react, it will not help you feel better.

So you have to make a choice. Every day you can make a choice that however this day goes, you will try to deal with it positively.

Don't get me wrong, we all still have moments when we are sad and need to have a big, snotty cry. I'm not suggesting we always be bundles of sunshine!! It is really important that we talk about the negative things as well as the positive, but the most important part of leading a happy life is how we deal with stress.

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So try. Every day try to stay positive. To be mindful. To think of the good things in your life. To stay centred. To take ten minutes to meditate. To appreciate. To be grateful. To love. And to be loved.

Being happy is an option. No matter how shit life may seem, whatever is thrown at you, you can make the decision to try to be happy, to take control of whatever you can, no matter how small.

It's hard to find any positivity in some situations but the important thing is to accept how you feel but not allow one bad thing to take over your whole life. Talking through your problems with others may help or even therapy but there is always a path to happiness, it may not be the road you ever thought you would take and it might mean you readjusting your ideas of happiness. Remember, it is not the things that happen to us that are important, but the way we react to them.

Next time you feel overwhelmed, take a breath, reevaluate and see if you can choose happiness.

Sam x

Sam Cleasby

Self Esteem and Confidence Expert, Blogger, Writer and Public Speaker, So Bad Ass

My name is Sam Cleasby and I run the blog So Bad Ass, I'm a health activist, writer and public speaker. I write about women's issues, from parenting to self esteem, body confidence, work and life. Living with chronic illness, my life with Ulcerative Colitis spurred me to begin my blog ( where I journal my illness, surgeries and recovery. Having an ostomy and now an internal j pouch inspired me to share my passion for loving yourself with others. I write for several publications and do public speaking, events and workshops, bringing confidence, joy and a bad ass spirit to women all over the UK.