Power Up By Dreaming More

Often our dreams are much closer than we think. Overcome your cautious caveman and see what you can do to make your dream a reality today.

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We all have a weight holding us down. It’s our mind. Our brain was designed in much simpler times; in fact our brain has only developed 10% in the last 50,000 years, so in essence we still have a caveman brain.

Cavemen had simple needs, the most important of which was to survive. Their brains were therefore extremely sensitive to potential danger as it was better to be safe than to be eaten. In other words, it was better to run away from something that wasn’t dangerous rather than hang about and then be ripped apart by something that really was. Blushing from a mistaken scare was not an issue back then - being a big Jessy was yet to be a concept; breathing was.

This hair trigger to danger is what we now call a negativity bias and is part of our inheritance and, although T Rexes no longer roam this planet, the fear of them persists. We have very few life-endangering experiences in modern living so our caveman brain simply reacts to what could potentially be a threat.

For example, a new idea, a change in habits, a strange expression on our boss’s face, the absence of a text from our partner or any of the multitude of things we experience every day. From our caveman’s perspective, all could be a threat to our very existence.

50,000 years ago we instinctively reacted to danger with fight, flight or freeze. It’s a subconscious and instinctive reaction and happens almost immediately we experience any danger.

The same happens today but we might react to fictitious dangers and that might result in very real problems.

We often hold ourselves small as we believe that we aren’t good enough, or that we will be found out if we go out on a limb, or that we are unlovable but that is just because our inner caveman wants to protect us. By implanting these doubts in our heads we don’t take risk and we do what we have always done (it has served us well as we haven’t been eaten yet!).

To wrestle your caveman (or woman) into submission for a few minutes ask yourself this question…. What would you do if you couldn’t fail?

Dream a little . . .

What you’ll find is that, if you really let rip, you’ll free yourself from the cave and start to tap into what excites you. Even though some of the dreams you tap into may seem unrealistic, they can hold the key to a new dream which you can live by today.

For example; one of my clients said his dream would be to move to Provence, become an author and then gaze at a beautiful view every day, drinking fine coffee and enjoying watching the seasons change.

When I asked him which elements of that he could actually make happen today he started to laugh. He explained that he had a balcony that he could write on everyday for an hour. It had an amazing view and just downstairs was the best Italian coffee shop in London.

So you see often our dreams are much closer than we think. Overcome your cautious caveman and see what you can do to make your dream a reality today.


Chris Baréz-Brown

Author, speaker and founder Upping Your Elvis, Upping Your Elvis

Best selling author, speaker and business beatnik Chris Baréz Brown has a rather unusual view of the world in that he knows that everybody is perfect. As we grow, develop and socialise we can lose touch with that brilliance and often become somebody we’re not. Chris founded his Dorset based company Upping Your Elvis in 2009 to help people reconnect with their inner genius and once again become confident in being who they truly are. The Guardian recently described Chris as a long haired, twinkly eyed cross between Richard Branson and a wizard.


Go to the profile of Jon Michael Cavitt
about 7 years ago
When I signed up to comment on Christine Livingston's post, here you are next door with a word for me, too. Another bit of serendipity because I'm not dreaming anywhere big enough. Early conditioning to not ask for anything for myself coupled with the points you made really limits the dream machine. Thanks for kicking the machine. Every bit of help is beneficial.