Tending to our goals is a lot like gardening Part 2

Practical wisdom from my recent workshop

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Well it's been few weeks since my original blog on making flower boxes as a project. And guess what? They are now long done and I want to share my results with you.

This is one of three flower boxes I managed to built. My partner helped too. I've just returned from Portugal where I was running a workshop and the flowers have really taken off. What started as just 8 small buds is now a beautiful garden that is beginning to spill over the box in a carpet which is what I wanted.

Lesson 1 for goal setting:

"Once you plant your seedlings, tend to them but have faith that they will grow into a luscious result."

I have of course tended to them. I watered them, applied MiracleGrow and kept the snails at bay.

Lesson 2 for goal setting:

"When you plant your seeds, resist digging them up to check they got roots."

I must admit, I felt impatient. I wanted the boxes to take off and transform overnight into beautiful carpets of flowers. I wanted them to grow faster to my neighbours delight. She is very wise and my complaints made her laugh. "The trouble with you young people is that you want everything now" - she remarked. I felt happy she was still including me in the 'young category' and we both laughed. In reality, it's taken 2 weeks to see the flowers take off and begin to flourish.

Lesson 3 for goal setting:

"Start with what you feel and think you CAN do, and you will grow and tackle things you never thought were possible"

If you'd asked me when I started with the boxes whether I could build a deck, you would have gotten an adamant No. In fact I was considering hiring a gardening company as I did not think I has relevant skills. But once I managed to build the boxes and got a feel for the wood and my saw and drill, I gained confidence. What I thought was possible shifted. I bought more wood and thought hey, if I fail I will still have fun trying to build the deck. What also kept me going was the sheer excitement of "giving it a try!"

Now this is by far not a completed deck project. It is a start of one. This deck will in the next few weeks provide me with a wonderful nook for morning coffee and writing. No more excuses!

And the best bit is that the deck is something I managed to make myself.

Lesson 4 for goal setting:

"You are never alone. Others know critical information that will help you and they will eagerly share to help see you succeed."

Of course I had help. My partner, the friendly chap at B&Q and my other neighbour all chipped in with their wisdom, advice and assistance. And that's the whole point!

Now don't get me wrong. The first attempt was wonky. So together with my partner, I had to redrill 80% of the screws to realign 80% of the planks. Who knows. We probably made many other errors. But we have a result that my neighbour (that same lady I mentioned earlier whose name is Ursula) gave it her thumbs up.

Lesson 5 for goal setting:

"Don't be attached to perfection. Just start and keep at it. Perfection emerges as we go."

As you embark on the 30day course know this: everything you will ever achieve or not will come down to your confidence to set clear goals and your will power to give them your energy through action. Whether its work, career, or home the largest journeys start with a concrete step however small. Focus on this and nothing else trusting that more will reveal itself when you need it.

I've just returned from a workshop on my Grid system. If you bought my Grid Book book, you will see how the most amazing lives are nothing more than a collection of steps across four areas of our life: life, work, career and how we nurture and care for ourselves grouped under specific homebases that designate what we decide matters to us.

Wherever you are in the 30day goal setting programme - please do share your results with others. I am sharing this one in that vain. Hoping it will inspire you and others to know that what's possible and not is nothing more than a thought we decide to entertain.

Today you may build boxes, tomorrow decks and in a few years your own house and who knows what else?

Good luck with your endeavours and don't forget to smile.

Magdalena Bak-Maier

Author, Guide, Magically Real Heart & Mind Connector, Make Time Count ltd

Magdalena Bak-Maier helps people connect and align their heart and mind in service of their ‘big agenda’. Her writing, teachings and models clearly show that the secret of success, wellbeing and joy resides in our nervous system and how we use it. Trained neuroscientists and coach to world’s elite performers, Magdalena teaches her tools and approach to all those interested in learning about it. So far this has included top NASA engineers, NHS doctors, emerging global leaders, coaches and wellbeing experts across the world. She has been also sharing her work with Psychologies readers through NowLive events and for those living in London you can catch her at the School of Life. Magdalena’s first book, Get Productive! (Capstone, 2012) includes 36 thought-provoking exercises and practical advice to empower readers to become masters of their own time, and achieve exceptional results continuously. Get Productive! received very positive reviews from customers and press alike, and quickly became a bestseller in the personal development arena. The Get Productive Grid (2015) her second book, is a no nonsense practical tool called the Grid for achieving life, work and career goals whilst making time for critical self-care. Having studied burnout at work (The Times, 2013) and working with people who struggle to realise their aspirations, the Grid conditions focus, effective habits of goal setting and progressive realisation steps towards results. If you want to achieve results whilst feeling you absolutely love who you are let Magdalena be your productivity guide. www.maketimecount.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sBsuIAscshE