Are you your partner’s biggest fan?

Your reaction to your partner's good news can have a significant impact on your relationship.

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Be your partner’s biggest fan

When your partner has something big to celebrate do you a) get out the bubbly and make a fuss of them b) say ‘that’s nice, dear’ c) quickly change the topic or d) rain on their parade by pointing out all the downsides? If you answered a) you are much more likely to have a lasting and satisfying relationship.

If you want to make a positive deposit in your relationship – it’ll help if you are enthusiastic, supportive and positive when your partner shares good news with you. Responding well to positive events is even more important than how you react to bad ones.

Researchers* found that how you respond to good news is even more important than whether you are empathetic and compassionate with your partner when they tell you bad news. So, next time your loved one shares a success – get ready to share their joy and celebrate.

For other evidence-based tips and practical steps to improve your relationship – why not join us on Life Labs – 30 day to save your relationship? It is for anyone who wants to improve, mend or save their marriage or long-term relationship and build an authentic love that lasts.

*Will you be there for me when things go right? Supportive responses to event disclosures by Shelley Gable et al, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology Nov 2006.

Sarah Abell

How to live, love and lead authentically,

My passion for authentic relationships came out of my own failure to relate well in my early twenties and what I’ve been learning about true connection ever since. What do I do? Good question and one I always find a bit tricky to answer. In a nutshell I help people to live, love and lead authentically. You can find out more at I have written, coached and spoken on relationships and authentic living to thousands of people. I was the Agony Aunt for The Daily Telegraph and I'm the author of "Inside Out - How to have authentic relationships with everyone in your life" (Hodder 2011). I have given two TEDx talks on authentic relationships and I write the Life Lab experiment on Love for Psychologies. I have been married to David for twelve years and we have one son, who is six. We live in Bristol.