Be your partner’s biggest fan

When your partner has something big to celebrate do you a) get out the bubbly and make a fuss of them b) say ‘that’s nice, dear’ c) quickly change the topic or d) rain on their parade by pointing out all the downsides? If you answered a) you are much more likely to have a lasting and satisfying relationship.

If you want to make a positive deposit in your relationship – it’ll help if you are enthusiastic, supportive and positive when your partner shares good news with you. Responding well to positive events is even more important than how you react to bad ones.

Researchers* found that how you respond to good news is even more important than whether you are empathetic and compassionate with your partner when they tell you bad news. So, next time your loved one shares a success – get ready to share their joy and celebrate.

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*Will you be there for me when things go right? Supportive responses to event disclosures by Shelley Gable et al, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology Nov 2006.