Why Is Being 'Like a Girl' an Insult?

I hate it when people think they are giving me a compliment by saying I do something ‘just like a man’. I’m a woman, for heaven’s sake, I don’t need my actions validated by being told I do it like a man, i.e. better than if I was doing it like a woman….

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Jul 15, 2014
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I hate it when people think they are giving me a compliment by saying I do something ‘just like a man’. I’m a woman, for heaven’s sake, I don’t need my actions validated by being told I do it like a man, i.e. better than if I was doing it like a woman…. Acting ‘like a girl’ was often used as a form of control when I was very young too, usually to stop me playing with the boys:

Jane, don’t do that, it’s not very ladylike’.

It’s a terrible message. Like calling girls ‘bossy’ but not boys (I like to counteract that one with:

“What leadership skills they are showing!’ You must be so proud.”

So I was thrilled when a past participant from a RenewYou course sent me this video to watch. Take a look and see what you think.

http://youtu.be/XjJQBjWYDTs

If the clip doesn’t open for you try clicking this link instead.

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By the way, I’m working very hard to run my RenewYou licensing business ‘like a woman‘. Our aim is to work together and support each other. September is a busy month; I am running a trainers’ event in the Midlands and licensed trainers have courses happening across the country. Check the map to see where your nearest one is.

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Jane C Woods

Women's Personal Development Specialist - Changing People, -

Hi, I’m Jane C Woods and I have an absolute passion for helping women achieve success in their lives. Be it the glass ceiling, the crystal maze, or very personal issues, I’m all about helping women achieve to their full potential and live the way they want to without being carbon copies of men. But I’m not about putting men down in order for women to get ahead, there’s plenty of room; I just want the guys to shifty up a bit… If my face looks familiar it's because I love Psychologies magazine (I've been buying it since the very first issue, such a good resource) and it's the only place I choose to advertise my courses. I write on women’s issues on my blog, www.changingpeople.co.uk, and am regularly featured in magazines, and on radio, but I’m probably best known for RenewYou. RenewYou is my one day personal development course for women. We have an international network of experienced, specialist women licensed to deliver it and empower women across the globe. Our goal is to reach one million women. It’s a big goal but… In 2013 we started with a single RenewYou specialist, me. Now you can find a RenewYou Courses across the UK, in the USA, Canada, Greece, Bangkok, Pakistan, South Africa, Belgium, with new countries being added all the time. My dream was to create a thriving and caring business on ethical, and dare I say, feminine terms, with a real community spirit of help and encouragement. And it’s actually happening with the support, expertise, and enthusiasm of my wonderful trainers. I think, (apart from my two lovely kids, a daughter and a son) that it’s probably my proudest achievement to date. Wonderful Changing People Women: One of the joys and privileges of my work is that I’ve connected with some really inspirational and wonderful women – from politics to entertainment to academia. They include: TV presenter, house fixer and matchmaker Sarah Beeny Amazing entrepreneur Sam Roddick of Coco de Mer Outspoken and entertaining academic Mary Beard Politicians like Siobhan Benita and Natalie Bennett Ex BBC broadcaster Miriam O’Reilly who bravely took on the might of the BBC- and triumphed A very rare interview with Sarah Montague, of the influential BBC Radio 4 Today programme I hope you like the posts and I hope they are helpful. Live life to the max and never hide your light under any bushels!

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