Knowing me Knowing you
“The greatest discovery in life is self-discovery. Until you find yourself you will always be someone else. Become yourself.” Myles Munroe
If, like me, you meet many positive and inspirational women who on the outside look the picture of health, beauty, confidence, sass, intelligence and god dammit they even smell sensational, then you’d be surprised to know that a majority have a crippling disease called comparisonitis.
I know that person so well, as that person is me, it’s you, your friends, your family, your neighbours, teachers, co-workers, fellow business associates and it seems that sometimes, it’s a global condition spreading out of control.
The realisation that mostly women, suffer terribly from bouts of comparisonitis is, overwhelming. Why do we beat ourselves up with a stick? Why do we pick the stick up in the first place?
But what can we do? How can we treat this? Is there a cure?
Letting go of perfectionism? Delete Instagram? Facebook? LinkedIn? That is the simple solution, but with social media being a tool that also bonds people, connects others, beats isolation and produces hilarious cat memes then is that a step too far?
Do we have the control to do what is right and not compare? Not to make judgements of ourselves and others? Not to feel a pang of jealousy over a post singing the joys of self-achievements and personal triumphs, leading to stories about how their 6-figure salary was attained in only 6 weeks!!
That moment when your skin tingles and that engulfing feeling of ‘I’m not good enough’ wraps us up in a blanket of comparison.
My biggest advice, apart from don’t look, delete or seriously limit your time on social media would be to really get to know the real you.
Yes, I know it sounds super cheesy, but getting to know oneself, at the age of NOW not past or present, can massively help with comparisonitis. Who you are and what you stand for plus what your version of success looks and feels like for you, is a game changer, a confidence booster and so very, very liberating.
In trying to be like others or want what others have we are continually in a state of other people’s stuff, the more we look closer at others, the more we move further away from ourselves. In trying to either be more like another person, or crave what they have, we stop understanding our own needs, our own positive attributes and our own achievements, no matter how big or small. By constantly comparing, you are denying yourself the opportunity to be the best version of you.
I now live in my own lane, which has taken a while to create, it’s a great place to be, there are no intersections, cross-roads or 6 fast lanes to nowhere, but my very own humble lane. Lined with olive trees, colourful things, people I love and cherish and my work. I now embrace my imperfections, they are part of me, what is the use of comparing, it is an energy draining, self-destructive exercise that takes us about 10 steps away from where we all want to be, which is living a happy and purposeful life.
Now it’s all about ME champions these values and invests time, love and creativity into helping you let go of limiting belief’s, such as ‘I’m not good enough’ and feelings of comparisonitis and turning the negative self-talk into something much more loving.
Some call it mindset work, some say it’s life coaching, some love the positive psychology elements, others find the NLP exercises life changing and others may feel that planning & accountability is more suited to their needs. Whatever you do, do it for you. If you are curious as to how coaching can help you move forwards and truly understand what makes you tick and not what other people think, now is the time to talk to ME about it. This may be the biggest step in your life, but I can guarantee it will be the first step to ‘knowing YOU’.
There is no need to compare, but there is a need to be a happy ME
All you need to do is book a call
Subject: Knowing ME Message: Time & contact Number and I will send you an invitation
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Next date Wednesday 12th February 7.30pm
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