When the going gets tough

The tough get going right? But how can you make that happen when you're in that tough place and struggling?

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It can stop you in your tracks; leaving you frozen or feeling paralysed with only thoughts of the tough place that you're in.

The idea of figuring out where you go from here, or how to cope when you're in this challenging place can often be the last thing to ever cross your mind.

Truth is we're all going to come into tough situations at some point in our life.  You may have already been through it, or you may be going through something right now.  And all the words of support and empathy that others can provide you with at the time, often can't help take away that feeling, emotion or situation that you feel stuck in.

But know this; you are strong, tougher than you realise and from this situation you'll change.  You will learn, you will grow and you will discover something about yourself that you didn't know before.

But how can you cope during those tough and dark times to help you see light at the end of the tunnel?

Here are some simple, but highly effective ways to help you achieve just that.

They don't involve too much thinking or doing in fact, and can be implemented right away.  And the added bonus is these tools are already deep within you.

  1. Recognise where you are - call it out, give it a name and ask yourself why you are here right now?  We all go through this and there's no shame whatsoever in being here. This is the starting point of acknowledging that you're here in this tough place.  Giving it a name and purpose (how it's got here and why you're feeling this way) means you've identified it and once you've done that, you can start moving forward.
  2. Get it out in the open - Talk to someone you trust about how you're feeling and what's going on.  Also, writing is a powerful way to release worries and troubles too, if you prefer to write then head to your journal and get it all out onto paper.  
  3. Take time for you - be gentle with yourself and honour what you need right now.  Self-care is a vital part of our wellbeing, and even more so when things are tough.  Make time to rest, recharge and nurture your needs each day even if it's 10 minutes, just this amount of time can make a huge difference to both your body and mind.
  4. Shift your view for a moment - your thoughts will become so consumed with the challenging moment in your life and can take the centre court of your daily focus.  Mindfulness techniques are a source of goodness when this happens.  Take note of where you are right now physically, the present moment, and absorb the surroundings, sounds and smells that are around you.  Take this a step further and list 3 things about your day that were good, or that you are thankful for in your life today.  It's been scientifically proven that gratitude can reduce depression and increase happiness in a short space of time.
  5. Focus on the good today - Ask yourself what are the things that are working well in your life already.  Can you get more of this into your life to help you with the 'tough stuff' that's going on? 

Keep going and take as long as you need.  

If you start to find it's all too much and you're struggling to see a way out, I encourage you to seek out professional support from your doctor - please don't give up.

Josie Copsey

Life Change Expert, Author, Mentor, Josie Copsey Ltd

Career changes, figuring out the perfect job, building incredible leaders and wellbeing are my jam. But before all of this, there was a corporate girl who had to go through quite a few setbacks, lessons and experiences. Ambitious, driven and focused I built a very successful change and training career that spanned over two decades. Helping leadership teams of large companies to transform their business. But back in 2013 I had enough. I was lost and didn’t recognise who I was anymore. A combination of being professionally bullied, suffering with burnout from working 12-hour days and zero personal life had done me in. My corporate work life had taken over me, I was selling my soul to a job and my health was suffering as a result. I took action and quit the job. Getting clear on my career was the ultimate light-bulb moment for me. But, there had been no definitive path in how I go about making this career change happen; all I knew was what I wanted to do and my determination and focus guided me through. I’m a gal who loves to plan and organise – a couple of my superpowers – so I documented every step and action I took knowing that one day, this would help others just like me. Those who have an idea on what they want to do, but unsure how to make it happen. Those who feel lost and hate their job, but don’t know what to do. Those who are stuck and looking for direction. I teach what I’ve done personally to build a career doing what I love and living the life I want. I’m all about taking action; you tell me what you want and I’ll show you how to make it happen. It is absolutely possible and achievable to be in a job you love; a job that brings you purpose and job satisfaction. You’re here for a reason. Your talents, your heart, your passion – you are one of a kind.


Go to the profile of Misti Bliss
about 2 years ago

Hello Josie, I particularly like numbers 2 and 3 as if you are finding life particularly tough, the others may, at that time be out of your reach but with some time and nurturing they may become available.