Week 11: make time for your passions

Step 1: what are they again?

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I have three wonderful children: two teenage girls and one younger boy. Matt is 11 years old and he can tell me his passions straight away- in fact he tells me about them all the time! My middle daughter is artistic and curious, she explores lives, interested in the world around her. My eldest is the same but seems to be finding it harder to explore these passions as she becomes locked onto the treadmill of exams, aspirations, what are you going to do next?

It seems to me that keeping hold of what your passions actually are gets so much harder as you get older and the expectations of the world take grip. I could get political about the effects of such a rigid education system on our young- so many seem to see their passions as unimportant in the face of the pressures to 'succeed'. I know I lost my passions for a while. Instead of pursuing what actually fired me up, I looked around at those around me and thought I should be pursuing what fired them up - and that is so unfulfilling.

So to the challenge. No waking up earlier for me although I love this pragmatic approach! Rather an inventory of what really fires me up, energises me, brings me peace:

  • Connecting with my family
  • Connecting with my home
  • Being with good friends
  • Walking
  • Reading
  • Meditating
  • Yoga
  • Creativity
  • Being alone
  • Inspiring and nurturing my students

Then a tally of how many I now prioritise in my life.

As a teenager my passions would have been so different - I was going to do things differently, I didn't want a 'normal' existence, I wanted drama! Now my passions are tamer but so cherished. And yes, I do find time to prioritise these. Some weeks it is easier than others, but that is life!

One thing is for certain though: it took me a long time to re-find what MY passions were, and I am not going to let them go!


Mother, wife, daughter, teacher...

Firmly stuck in the 'sandwich generation' category, I am 46 years old and looking to shake things up a bit! I am a teacher, which I love - but it takes over your life! A mother of three - two daughters, 16 and 15, a son aged 11. Wife to Simon for 19 years. Carer for rather eccentric mum, aged 89.


Go to the profile of Vanessa
almost 6 years ago
Jacqui, you are so right! It's easy to forget what our passions are and really hard to reconnect with them sometimes. I can remember not so long ago being asked "What makes you happy" and having absolutely no idea... I'm so grateful for the people who have recently come into my life and given me permission to play.
Go to the profile of Fiona Dolben
almost 6 years ago
I totally am with you ....lovely post x
Go to the profile of Mark Cuddy
almost 6 years ago
Jacqui, I seriously don't know where you get your energy from but I think it's inspiring. I feel ashamed not being able to pack so much into my life as much as you clearly do but reading your posts makes me strive more to fill up my days and time with things I want and need to do. You're attitude is superb, thank you for another great succinct post. Mark.
Go to the profile of Chris Baréz-Brown
almost 6 years ago
Great post and agree with Mark, your energy is amazing! When we care for others we can loose track of who we are. Nice one for identifying your passions. Huge loving C x