If you're feeling a little lost, without direction or motivation, it's easy to feel anxious. This week's post from my Blog offers a way forwards

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You may have noticed I haven’t written a Post for quite some time. I feel sad about this, as it is one of my bigger intentions in life to write, in order that I may help and inspire my readers in some small way.

So, not to have written for some months is beginning to irk me; I’ve been waking up feeling uncomfortable about it for some time, and as I go through my day, the thought enters my mind that I should be writing, (notice the word ‘should’).

When I tell myself I ‘should’, I’m bound not to do it. I am a rebel to my inner demands – tell me to do something, and I’ll find something else to do. I’ve always been that way, and I’ve now come to accept and rather like this part of my character!

So this morning I awoke at 4.30am – I have a lot going on at the moment, with work, relationships, the usual! As I lay in bed making mental lists of all the things I need to do in preparation for a busy work week, including a trip to the US next weekend, I decided to get up, stop thinking and start doing.

It’s rather wonderful being up with the birds, savouring that quiet time when the world has not roused itself into action. After washing dishes listening to the BBC World Service, I went back to my bed to meditate, and have quiet time with God. Of course, the tentacles of anxiety began to crawl into my mind, as often happens when I sit to meditate. So I prayed. I asked God to remove from me the anxiety and fear I have about not writing again, about not getting my book published, about others getting on with their lives and being successful, whereas I’m just doing dishes, and if I’m just doing dishes, well, I’ll never amount to anything will I, and on and on and on the mind went. No wonder I felt anxiety and fear listening to that! Truly, it is not very motivating, beating ourselves into action!

As I prayed, I remembered what one of my friends said to me a couple of months ago, when I was sharing with her that it felt like I’d lost my mojo where writing is concerned.

“Do the next right thing Sahera”, she simply said.

“Ok, what does that look like?” I asked.

“Ask to be shown what to do next. If you don’t have the long-term plan, and you don’t know if or when you’ll return to writing, ask your Higher Power for guidance to do the next right thing, put it in God’s hands, and see what happens.”

Well guess what. I did that this very morning, and sure enough, the inspiration came to me instantly, to write about doing the next right thing. So here I am, it’s 6.01am and I’m writing, and, in my mind, I’m doing the next right thing.

When you’re in doubt about your life, where it’s going, and what to do, spend some time in quiet, with whatever it is you choose to call your Higher Power, your God, your Guidance, or simply Love, and ask to be shown your next step.

“God, help me to do the next right thing”. Then trust you will be shown the way. Practice this several times a day when in doubt as to your next step. In my experience, it works.

I’m off to have breakfast now.

Love in Connection.


Sahera Chohan

Author | Courage Coach | Blogger | Motivational Speaker , Courage To Connect

My mission is to help you to be your best self by helping you to authentically connect with yourself, others and life. Through some tough life experiences, I have been inspired to spend the last 30 years dedicated to helping others evolve, grow and overcome adversity, through what I have learned through my own challenges. Bottom line, if you are willing to have the courage to connect with the hard knocks life throws at you, instead of disconnecting through all the ways we have to numb out, food, sex, shopping, TV, ice-cream - I'm sure you can think of more - you will discover how amazing and resilient you truly are. If you have the courage and willingness to say YES to life, instead of NO, you will be amazed at the gifts when you open yourself up, rather than close yourself down. The good news is that you have the power and choice to do that. Working on spiritual, emotional, mental and physical levels, I help people become aware of the limited state of the ego, which essentially thrives on fear, and discover the courage to access and live out of one’s best self, which is essentially love. Simple really, but not easy. When my husband decided to take his own life a week before my 35th birthday, I walked a huge healing path, which inspired me to write my first book, 'Through the Grit To The Pearl', to show how even the most devastating of experiences can bring a richness of life you may not even suspect is available to you. Every single experience we have, whether we like it or not, is precisely designed for our learning, growth and evolution. When you really get this, you can begin to live your life from a state of power, vitality, and happiness. I also write a Blog and do Speaker Events on themes I write about in my Book. Previously I worked as a Presenter for the BBC, presenting a variety of network television and radio shows alongside running my own TV production company. My values and intentions are to to be loving, even when it’s hard to be. To walk in another’s shoes when I judge them. To listen well, to others and to that deep small voice within. To tell the truth, especially when I don’t want to. To take more risks, by increasing faith and decreasing fear, and to stretch out of what is familiar, safe and known by trusting more. And not take it all so seriously!