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A few months ago I had a very interesting conversation with someone about choice. They were telling me about a meeting they had the following week which they were really not looking forward to. In fact it was ruining their weekend. I asked why they were choosing to let it ruin their weekend and they said they had no choice, they had to go to work and they had to go to this meeting.

“Wow” I said, “does your boss hold a gun to your head?”

Of course the answer was no. There were no guns, threats to kidnap their children or to kill their dog but who else can relate to this? I know I have felt the same in the past.

The conversation continued

ME: “I understand it is frustrating feeling like you have no choice, if you had a choice how would you feel?”

THEM: “I’d feel more in control, I’d be happier and I’d have more energy”

So I asked three simple questions;

ME: “What is the main reason you go to work?”

THEM: “To have money”

ME: “What three things does money get you that you couldn’t live without?”

THEM: “My phone, my car and a few meals out”

ME: “No, that you couldn’t LIVE without”

THEM: “Oh! Food in my fridge, a roof over my head and running water I guess.”

ME: “Ah ha! So you can’t live without those things so the first choice you make is to live and to live you need water, food and shelter and to get those freely and with a level of comfort you need money and to get money you need to work. So you choose to work. You don’t have to. You choose to because a few choices deeper you chose to live. How EXCITING!!

Taking away choice leaves us feeling powerless and for us to reach our full potential we need to feel empowered. The great news is we always have a choice. Reminding yourself that you choose to work everyday gives you back the power which then empowers you to make choices that may require big leaps of faith. So you hate your job, you can choose to be miserable everyday or you can do something about it. If the something about it seems like far away then choose to enjoy the time you spend at work because remember, you chose to be there because you chose to live.

Time is the MOST precious thing we have the pleasure of experiencing because once it’s gone, it’s gone. All though it feels like we live on borrowed time, it’s still YOUR time. It’s your CHOICE how you spend it. You can’t get yesterday back, or this morning or 5 mins ago or NOW or NOW or NOW… GONE. Your TIME Gone. We are a strange breed us humans because somewhere along the way we decided to sell our TIME for money so that we could no longer SPEND time freely. To choose how you spend your time means FREEDOM, take away the choice and you are powerless.

Now, so many people can only choose how they spend their money, not their time and if someone else has control over how much money you can make then there is no freedom in spending your money. Again POWERLESS. Do you sell your time for money (work) and then spend the day hating your time? The TIME you can’t get back. No wonder we are a sick and depressed race. OK, so in today’s world we need to work and sell our time but here’s the SECRET, you still have a choice about how you choose to enjoy that time.

When you feel yourself clock watching and wishing you were somewhere else, just ask yourself this one question: Do I want to choose to enjoy this time I can’t get back or do I want to choose to hate it?

At least then you know it was your choice and you’ll have no regrets

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