What To Do When Your Motivation Goes Missing

We always have some kind of a relationship with motivation even though it can be mysterious at times. I know it seems to disappear without a note, leaving you deflated, heavy and directionless and as if you don’t even want to get out of bed but to be able to find it again, we really need to know where it comes from...

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Most of the time we look to external sources to motivate us. “I just need A,B or C” and then I will be motivated. The problem lies in the fact that when A, B or C do not arrive or no longer motivate us, we lose our motivation.

However this does not mean you cannot BE motivated.

So what do you do when motivation goes missing?


The more we look to external sources to make us feel good the less power we have. As you may have experienced with something that motivates you, one day you can feel motivated to do it and the next you don’t. Like loosing weight or getting a new job. These drivers can motivate but they don’t always show up. You want to be in charge of what you feel and not give that power over to something else.

I have days when I don’t want to do anything and sometimes I’m ok with that. I kick back and watch RuPaul’s Drag Race back2back (if you haven’t watched this I highly recommend it). However, on the days where I want more for myself I need to stop looking or waiting for an external source to make me feel something and do what I would do if I felt motivated.

So in short, stop sitting by the phone waiting for motivation to call and take action. Ask yourself “Well, what would I do if I did feel motivated?” The beauty of taking action in this way is that something changes on a visceral level, you are acting as if you were motivated and your body and mind will respond as such. Then before you know it, motivation has come home, made a cuppa and you’ve empowered yourself to feel what you wanted to feel.

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Lydia Kimmerling

Life Coach, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker, The Happiness Explorer

Hey, I'm Lydia Kimmerling I am MAD, CRAZY, PASSIONATE about helping you to create a life you're super excited to wake up to. Being happy...ish, inspired...ish and fulfilled...ish is never quite enough, is it? When you feel like there is "more" out there for you, it's because there is. A life where you can't remember the last time you worried, stressed or doubted yourself and your friends ask you "What's your secret?" because you GLOW, SPARKLE and SHINE. That can be you and I will show you how. I got my first television job at 17, ran my own restaurant in Panama at 22, taught Hip Hop in Cornwall at 26, was cabin crew for Virgin Atlantic at 28, coached CEO's on confidence at 29, then at 30 took the leap as a certified life & business coach with The International Coaching Federation to launch my very own transformational company called The Happiness Explorer. I am a master of change, so I can tell you that there is NEVER really anything to fear, but has it always been easy? NO! I have blocks, down days and self-doubt too, life doesn't stop throwing you curve balls, it's how you catch the ball and throw it back that changes. Plus, you never know until you try, right? At 32, I now know what the key is to waking up every single day excited about the life you live. It is to know yourself inside and out and to love every part of who you are.The more you know yourself, the more of you there is to love and the more you love yourself, the more you want to give yourself a life you love. The question is…What do you really want?


Go to the profile of Sarah-Kate Goodwin
over 5 years ago
Motivation makes a cuppa- this is the feeling of having exhausted all your energy and enthusiasm doing things you really wanted to do and can sit down to a nice cup of tea feeling happy with yourself at the end of the day. The reason why I want to have motivation everyday.
Go to the profile of Lydia Kimmerling
over 5 years ago
Yes Sarah! That's what I'm doing right now....Happy Sunday x